Need advice!

[nicolecarol]

Ok so I'm currently living with my in-laws & my bf. I've been here for my whole pregnancy the whole 9 months & it was hard adjusting to a different family & what not. It was hard leaving home but it was better for me to move in with my bf. Well I recently gave birth to my baby girl the 21st & boy was my first night exhausting. The next couple of days I would catch myself crying for no apparent reason, I'm talking about full out crying. I guess you can say I'm feeling the baby blues but I also fall into this depression where I feel stressed out & hopeless. My bf is barely around because of work & I feel lonely as hell knowing that I have no one there with me, I understand he has to work but it's just how I feel. I had told my mother about the situation & she told me it would be better to go back home for a while till I would get better, she had said maybe us both can stay at my parents for a while. But my bf is the type of person who doesn't want to seperate. He thinks I want to seperate him & the baby but I really don't. I just fall into depression knowing I don't have him by myside & it honestly hurts. It's not like I don't have help here at home, my mother in law helps alot but I still feel a bit uncomfortable being a new mom & especially being around his family & our room, it makes me miss him more. I don't know how to talk to my bf about moving with my parents for a while. Basically I don't know what to do at all.

[nicolecarol]

Thanks alot! Your words make me feel better :)

[EmaleeJoy]

Well the baby blues can unfortunately last about 4 weeks, anything past that period is beginning the postpartum depression category. Id give it some time to adjust to. I was the same way, I'd cry for a hours and my boyfriend works from 2pm to 1am so it's me and my little man constantly since my boyfriend needs sleep as well. I had my son February 20th and I'm STILL adjusting, it's still hard some days and easier on others. Having a baby is no walk in the park and it's especially hard without two hands constantly. I promise you though, it does get easier. I'd say the first month was the hardest for me. But definitely give yourself some time, you just had your baby a little over a week ago so you're still getting used to the mama thing and adjusting to your new life. If it doesn't get better after 4-6 weeks, then maybe think about seeking help or getting away! Unless it's what you really want to do(: good luck mama and congrats!