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should we just call it quits?

Me and my current bf are expecting a Lil boy which is great but honestly we're unhappy together. We don't get along and argue constantly.  He gets mad i don't trust him but he doesn't treat me perfectly, he's forever screaming at me. Never violent though but its like we cant talk about anything. I have a daughter from a former relationship and she's 3. She used to like my bf but now doesn't. He's a good guy but I'd be okay with being alone i just don't know if it's worth fighting for.
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134578 tn?1693250592
Seriously, take RR's and speciamom's advice and don't date anyone else for a long, long time, focus on your family.  By all means file for child support, and have visitation if he wants, but don't be in a supposed family unit when all you do is model anger and fighting for the kids who will see this and think it's the way relationships are.  Very hard to fight this early imprinting, and you don't want your daughter to grow up thinking this is the norm.
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973741 tn?1342342773
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Hi there.  I'm sorry!  That's hard.  A volatile home with someone screaming is not a good environment for kids.  I would consider if you are fine on your own being on your own.  Wait a good long time before dating anyone else.  It's hard to blend a family and often we repeat things and end up with the same kinds of guys all over again.  So, focus on a happy, peaceful home for just you and your kiddos.  I'm sorry though as I know it is hard.  hugs
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13167 tn?1327194124
That's two you'll have by men who are no longer with you,  Shay.  

He does sound destructive,  so I think you're better off without him.  

I think being alone is a good idea.  Raise your two little ones in a stable, loving home with mommy and the kids,  and don't bring another guy who might turn out as badly as the first two did.

Statistically,  (so that means not every single time,  but usually) kids are happier in a home with only mommy than they are in a home with a new boyfriend that isn't their dad.
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Sounds like you've already made up your mind.
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