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sympathy weight-bf issues

My boyfriend has always been self conscious about his weight because he was pretty big in high school and he lost like 50 pounds one year because of the critisism from people and he had a bit of an eating disorder when we started dating his senior year (this was 4 years ago) but now that I'm pregnant he is over his weight issues-or so I thought. I told him i wanted him to gain some weight with me but he's doing the opposite and losing weight and always worried and he's been skipping lunch and I call him every day to make sure he ate... I don't know what to do because it makes me feel bad about myself too because I'm gaining all this weight and he thinks he's fat and it makes it really hard...
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Also, he came home tonight and went on a bike ride because he's "out of shape" and I LOVE mountain biking so it ***** that I can't go and that he's losing weight and getting in shape and I'm going to be trying to get into shape throughout the summer while taking care of a baby too and he'll be able to out-bike me lol
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dont make him gain weight he worked so hard not to be fat
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I don't think making him gain weight with you will solve anything. Try to understand how he felt when he was critizised for being overweight you wouldn't want him to go through it again. when you're overweight you always see yourself that way even when you're skinny. it's hard to break that off and actually see yourself as what you look like instead of just seeing that overweight person. You're going to gain weight and it'll suck but I'm sure you'll still be able to work out with him once baby is here.
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I think it's weird that you would ask him to gain weight because you're pregnant. You're pregnant, it's going to happen! You can exercise and lose the weight when you're done. Why don't you tell him how good he looks? I appreciate that my man is physically fit, he looks good so I tell him. Like he tells me how beautiful I am. You're not fat,you're pregnant so please get that out of your head. I think you have things really twisted. Just because your pregnant also doesn't mean you can't exercise, just take it easy.
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Your pregnant your going to gain weight whether you like it or not. I'm not understanding why you want him to gain weight with you especially since he has a history of eating disorders and insecurity.
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I think it's weird that you asked him to gain weight too. Y'all should work out together.

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