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[saramay2014]

I feel like im fighting a battle thats never going to be won... if my bf really wanted our baby and cared for us like he says hed be trying right? He hasnt been trying at all and i just feel like breaking down, i feel like i cant do this anymore. I feel like i want more out of this relationship than he does and i just cant put up with him doing nothing all the time. He cant put time to go look for a job or anything, he wont help me. Im on the edge and i cant take it anymore... its making me so depressed all the time and it hurts me so bad, i wish things were diffrent but i dont see things ever changing. Im about to give up on the person i love the most and it hurts so bad but i just cant do it, ive given him chance after chance after chance to change and do something but he wont. I feel broken </3

[specialmom]

You've written about this guy, no job, no car, daddy gives him his cell phone because otherwise he couldn't afford one, does drugs . . .   really makes me sad that you are sad over him.  I understand that when we are young, we don't look for the qualities in someone we would if we were thinking big picture, long term or what is healthiest for us.  We just want to have fun, right?  Well, sadly, life isn't really like that.  Men need to be men and women need to pick well when it comes to a significant other.  He's not really a good pick.  Okay, he's definitely not.  If he were my son, I'd be appalled at his lifestyle of nothingness.  

And I want better for you than that.  Cut ties with him.  And don't date for a while---  anyone while you get used to having a baby and being a mom.  That will dominate things with the other thing that should dominate is school/job training or work.  Nothing makes you grow up faster than having a child and you are about to enter the adult world of lots of hard work and sacrifice to have a decent life and to provide a decent life for your child.  He won't be part of it most likely because he doesn't live a decent life himself.  He'll just drag you down. Do better for yourself than what he has to offer.  (sounds like basically sperm).  

good luck. This was a tough love moment but I've seen several of your posts about this guy and I just hope that you two stay apart or it will be a life time of hardship, living pay check to pay check (oh yeah, there ISN'T a pay check from him), just struggling in every way.  Not a life I'd want for you or anyone.  good luck

[mel110011]

If u think u will be able to be stress free an happier without him then thats what you need to doo ! :-)

[GabiiHer21]

Girl You Dont Need him Dont let him tie you down , yea your having a baby and you gotta make a decision fast because all this stress can affect your baby , If hr wont man up theirs no point &obviously your going to need help so talk to his parents if he wont budge ,you're not alone ,

[saramay2014]

We didnt plan for the baby at all, we are both young and have been together 4 years, i got pregnant when my dr switched my birth control pill.. ive talked to him several times but it feels like he doesnt listen to me at all. I came to his house to talk tonight but ive been here an hour and he hasnt been around to talk to me

[GabiiHer21]

Not everyone is ready to have kids , if yall were trying you shouldve yhought things through , if he promised you he would change talk to him about it because honey having a baby is a huge job
you need help financially , physically , & Emotionally
Talk to him about it , work things out .if you choose not to be with him its not the end of the world , its a new start for you and you angel
God Bless You.

[saramay2014]

I have so much more than this to say but it would be way to long... i just have noone else to talk to