too emotional?..

[LeskeeS]

So my bf  kinda has an anger problem...not towards me but like when something doesn't go his way or his phone messes up he starts to throw it or slam things, everything he does this it gets me ina bad mood, before I was able to just ignore it and then he gets even more mad that I'm mad and he won't speak to me well we won't speak to one another and when I try he'll talk tl me in that mad tone, which then my anger turns into sadness and all I wanna do is cry or leave. Lately it's been happening alot more then usual and I'm so tired of feeling sad or depressed I don't talk to many friends and I don't go out other then work so he's really the main person I speak to and everytime this happens I feel so much anger and sadness, any one have any tips? Other then when he gets mad we are always fine and he never gets in my face or anything...it's mostly he'll just ignore me n not talk to me

[LeskeeS]

Well we've been together already for four years and it's never really gotten that bad or outta hand he doesn't go off throwing everything in his path just whatever isn't working...like today his phone in the four years it's not something that happened often it's just been now that it's a problem he usually will just go out for a walk with our dogs and come back better but since I've been getting upset he doesn't like me getting upset but doesn't know how to talk me about it so he'll just leave me alone till I'm ready but I won't give in until I sit and think why I was mad and it's usually that I over react

[AsadaLove]

That stress isn't good for the baby. Whenever my bf and I get mad we just go in separate rooms to cool off until we can talk like civilized people. In past relationships where the guy was always easily angered it never ended well one ended up being pretty abusive, when he broke all of his stuff he would try to come after me .you guys should seek counseling or something behavior like that isn't good for a family. Nor is it safe because you never know if they will get better or how bad they will get..

[LeskeeS]

Lol I wish we could just turn off some of the the things that come with the pregnancy package lol it's been 5 years since my last baby and boy did I forget what it like to be pregnant lol

[Takeiyah_]

Lol yeah they are ! They were kicking mines still are but not as bad as it used too.

[LeskeeS]

It was never a big deal really until now and I do believe it's the hormones he doesn't throw things towards me and I have other kids aswell my daughter was in diapers when we first got together and he's actually very helpful.. he would get up most the time and get her bottles and that's because she's not his so I know our baby won't cause problems or make things worst..I don't live in fear my xhusband now he had me living in fear I just get really emotional when he's upset I dislike hearing him mad and Yes I know he gets a little outta control but after he gets over it he's fine and he'll apologize he's never been able to just talk about why he's angry or how to leave things alone and like I said I hate him not giving me attention but I understand he wants space to cool off... these hormones are really kicking my butt and I still have a long way to go

[Takeiyah_]

Its the hormones I SWEAR take it from me . it really is like sometimes when you guys argue just take a second and try to think of why your mad ? Lol sometimes you'll be like gosh these hormones really do make women crazy lol.  But you guys should go to counseling if its really serious. My bd used to be abusive and I used to think I was going to lose my baby but ever since we hot help everything is better were able to talk it out . we stl get mad but not like we used too.  

[a_miracle_in_me]

I agree he needs to grow up or take anger management classes. The baby will grow in fear just like you. Y'all should seek counseling.

[bittybean]

I wouldn't be able to deal with that.. I would have left a long time ago but that's just me. He shouldn't throw things he's not 2. And if he gets that angry at small things like his phone how angry will he get when the baby wakes him up at night crying? That would scare me.

[BellanJune]

I am going through the same thing...I have never cried so much in my entire life. This experience was supposed to be one of the happiest in my life but I feel no support from him emotionally. I can't even say that I'm in pain because he doesn't believe me or he thinks it's because I was with someone. My job requires me to be on my feet for long periods of time, walking back and forth, climbing ladders and lifting heavy boxes. He doesn't think for a second about the strain or stress I go through with work alone. I too have no one to talk to. I'm 26 weeks. Maybe things will get better.

[LeskeeS]

But sometimes it's hard not to get mad especially when he's throwing and slamming things around me...for example today in the morning his phone was messing up he ended up breaking it I turned around n went back to sleep and he's still not talking to me he slammed the door and left the room

[JulieKuhnert]

My husband went through that. I talked to him and learned all he wanted to do was be alone for a bit too decompress.  If I got in his face and tried to make him talk to me, it just compounded his anger. He never hit me, never yelled at me, he just wanted some alone time to work through whatever had upset him.