what to do

[cookiewoman]

I'm pretty sure that my husband cheated on me. I'm worried bc I'm on his insurance and I'm only 19 weeks pregnant. Should I file for divorce now or wait until after the baby?

[rockland45]

Wow, I'm really sorry you're having these doubts about your husband. I know that's not what you want to be dealing with during your pregnancy. But before you make any big decision about your future, you probably want to be sure you know what's truly going on with your husband. So, have you had a chance to talk with him about your concerns? Do you think he might be willing to see a counselor with you to get any possible issues out on the table?  Perhaps there's a way you could work through this and save your marriage. Lastly, definitely surround yourself with lots of support during this time. Hopefully, you have friends and family to share the burden with you, or even consider a local Crisis Pregnancy Center if you're feeling alone. You can find them online or through the yellow pages, and they often have support groups they can refer you to. So, just a couple things to think about. In the meantime, you're in my prayers.

rockland45
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[RockRose]

1.  Clarify whether he was having an affair.

2.  Don't purposely get cut off insurance while you're pregnant.   That's just a decision that causes the whole house of cards to fall down and could put you in life-ruining debt.  There's a certain amount of self-respect that goes with keeping yourself out of bankruptcy.

[3littlebeans]

Ugh why would you stay just because of insurance that's a worse reason then bc you have kids. It's called self respect. Tell him to bite it!!!!!

[love_being_his_mrs]

I'd find out first!  Have you talked? Talked with someone else to make sure it's not crazy hormones?  I'm not saying you shouldn't leave, but just make 100% sure. Don't let insurance drive your decision.  Things have a way of working out.

[FreyjaCasper]

Most states won't let you divorce while you are pregnant. And it's a Hassel if you do because you will need another court hearing for child support afterwards. They won't consider a child that hasn't been born yet. And most judges won't grant it until after the baby is born anyways because the birth of the baby can sometimes result in reconciliation. My ex husband left me at 14 weeks preggo last year. Thank the gods there was no reconciliation because I found wayyyy better and moved the heck on :)

[chloegc1023]

Just how sure r u?  And I would stay on his insurance if it were me...

[hooyomacaan]

U should just wait until u have the baby so u won't have to deal with all that hospital n dr visit bills unless u can get ur own insurance!!!!