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Doing the deed while pregnant. You know what I mean.
Has anyone noticed changes in the bd'ing department? Despite the morning sickness and everything else I am still getting in the mood, but when we actualy have sex it's horrible. It just doesn't feel good to me right now. Everything is really tender and sore. Plus my dh is acting all weird only lasting for a few minutes not giving me any chance of a big o. It's like he's freaked out by the whole thing too. It's getting to be weird and I think we need to talk about it. I guess I just don't want to tell him that sex is an awful experience for me right now because I don't want to turn him off of the whole pregnancy. What if it changes in the second trimester? I don't want him to be on a 9 month strike.
Are you guys having any of the same issues or maybe the opposite where things have improved in the bedroom since you found out about being pregnant?
Are you guys having any of the same issues or maybe the opposite where things have improved in the bedroom since you found out about being pregnant?
Haha. With me it's all or nothing. Either I am NOT feeling it or I am REALLY feeling it. And I have absolutely no control over it. My hormones are 100% in the driver's seat of my husband and my sex life right now. It's fine though. We've still been fairly active. My husband is relatively understanding when we're not. And I haven't had any of the discomfort some of you have described. I'm more afraid of what will happen after the baby is born!!
Initially i didnt have the mood and hated the idea of him even touching me ANYWHERE!!!
But these days iv observed that sometimes i too am in a mood and then for a while my boobs dun hurt as much and i love him dng stuff with my boobs. The terror is when he gotta insert, iv always been comfi only with missionary position & now im dead scared if it is ok. Once it is in, im crying with pain and feel like pushing him out...aww..so mean. havent tried tasting the genitals since im preggo, though i feel he may b missing it, but nausea doesnt allow me to!
My doc said it is safe to have intercourse, but be gentle :-)
What positions are recommended?
A bit funny, but does condom still need to be on while im preggo n v have sex?
But these days iv observed that sometimes i too am in a mood and then for a while my boobs dun hurt as much and i love him dng stuff with my boobs. The terror is when he gotta insert, iv always been comfi only with missionary position & now im dead scared if it is ok. Once it is in, im crying with pain and feel like pushing him out...aww..so mean. havent tried tasting the genitals since im preggo, though i feel he may b missing it, but nausea doesnt allow me to!
My doc said it is safe to have intercourse, but be gentle :-)
What positions are recommended?
A bit funny, but does condom still need to be on while im preggo n v have sex?
I loved it when I was preg with DD but DH and I were still in that new stage of our relationship (I got preg with DD the first time we ever had sex I think!!). Also younger!
Now...I'm too scarred if I do I'll end up having a m/c. I've been in the mood lately but like I said to scared to follow thru. DH could care less, his sex dive took a nose dive 3 years ago. I think he could go MONTHS without it and not even notice. I'm ussually the one begging!! LOL
I do that when I was preg with DD the second trimester was like a breath of fresh air and did great things for our sex lives. Hoping that happens this time as well...and for you all too!!!!!
Hang in there!
Now...I'm too scarred if I do I'll end up having a m/c. I've been in the mood lately but like I said to scared to follow thru. DH could care less, his sex dive took a nose dive 3 years ago. I think he could go MONTHS without it and not even notice. I'm ussually the one begging!! LOL
I do that when I was preg with DD the second trimester was like a breath of fresh air and did great things for our sex lives. Hoping that happens this time as well...and for you all too!!!!!
Hang in there!
For the most part I still want it, and its still just as good.. but there are times when he puts the moves on me and I just want nothing to do with it. I don't want to be rude, or hurt his feelings, or make him just decide to quit for the next (insert horribly too-long amount of time here). So I try to stick it out most of the time hoping I'll decide it isn't so bad (as long as I'm not feeling sick... I just tell him he's got to wait til I don't feel like I'm bout to blow).
I don't want him to think I'm not attracted to him anymore, but sometimes the whole idea seems UGHHH now.
I don't want him to think I'm not attracted to him anymore, but sometimes the whole idea seems UGHHH now.
oh my drive has nose dived for sure! he wants it and i DONT! just not interested! was different with the boys tho i mean we did it all the time then but i just feel too tired and sore and not in the mood now :(
poor man haha
poor man haha
I had the talk and I am so glad we did! I pretty much told him hands off until further notice. He was really understanding and didn't have a problem with it.
So last night he tried to put the moves on me again. It was horrible. First he pressed his had on my bladder and I almost peed the bed. I jumped up and ran to the bathroom. Take two... he made the horrible mistake of touching my boobs and I wanted to cry.... take three... he got his hand caught in my hair and pulled a chunk of it out.
After that he was so bummed out he gave up, but not before saying something about putting me in a plastic bubble where I would be safe for the rest of my pregnancy. I was so pissed off. Mostly because I know he is never in the modd before 10pm so I had toothpicks under my eyes trying to stay awake for him. I have to talk to him this is so uncomfortable.
After that he was so bummed out he gave up, but not before saying something about putting me in a plastic bubble where I would be safe for the rest of my pregnancy. I was so pissed off. Mostly because I know he is never in the modd before 10pm so I had toothpicks under my eyes trying to stay awake for him. I have to talk to him this is so uncomfortable.
We had intercourse Sundady for the first time in about a month. I started spotting that night. Everyone tells me to hold off until after the first trimester. In fact another lady on here who has twins on the way said her dr. says none until 13 weeks and none after 20 weeks. Evidently it can irritate your cervix and I just think it's a little to risky right now.
He's cut off for a while. LOL
He's cut off for a while. LOL
Sex during pregnancy......Well, some women want sex more when they are pregnant but I am not one of them. I have been so very sick lately that I want no part of it!!!
So, I do understand and feel the same way :(
So, I do understand and feel the same way :(
I have not done nothing since the BFP, my sex drive has drove away, i think part is im scared something might go wrong and end in m/c. And the other part is, i dont desire it. I feel so bad for DF bucz we tried 4play one day, and my senses are so hightened that the smell/taste of his genitals made me want to vomitt, and he had took a shower. Im a total mess in that department right now and i hope he finds comfort in porn or his hands until this **** passes:(
Its sad bcuz im so moody, even when he touches me i feel gross, i was not like this with my first child(i was 19) i wanted to do it all the time.
Even if we did attempt sex right now, i no it would feel uncomfortable bcuz the vaginal U/S is so uncomfortable and even my pelvic exam when she put the speculum in, ughhhh.
Its sad bcuz im so moody, even when he touches me i feel gross, i was not like this with my first child(i was 19) i wanted to do it all the time.
Even if we did attempt sex right now, i no it would feel uncomfortable bcuz the vaginal U/S is so uncomfortable and even my pelvic exam when she put the speculum in, ughhhh.
I don' t want it at all!! LOL...he wanted to do it last night, but I was so nauseous he said he wouldn't ask anymore until after the 1st trimester....Yea for me!! I just don't have the desire anymore...
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