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1554910 tn?1297429911

Sharing the news

I found out I was pregnant New Years Day and my husband is out of town this weekend for a trip so we decided to tell family next weekend. We're not going to tell anyone else for some time, and are only telling a few people we would tell if something went wrong anyway. My family and I are very close and watching me like hawks lately. They are all hanging out this weekend and calling to offer to come pick me up so I can join them but I know they will notice the second I turned down a glass of wine so I'm sticking home. This is the first grandchild so I am going nuts not telling them and I am a terrible liar, so I am feeling more than a little isolated right now trying to avoid them while my husband is in Paris.  It is strange to be keeping something so big from them.

Did you tell your families yet?
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Avatar universal
I knw its hard to keep this secret. I have to my mom. I am not sure if anyone else knws or not in my family. I am too shy to tell them. We still have to tell my husbands family, probably will call this weekend. We are not telling anyone else till atleast 3 mths after than only couple of frnds and family after 20 weeks or so we will tell others. Thatz what we have decided.
1018329 tn?1448980165
We told my DH grandmother right when we found out.  Then she asked if she could say the big news to the family before dinner on Christmas day, so she stood up and announced that we had another baby on the way. When i was pregnant last year with my DS we didn't tell anyone til we were almost 16 weeks. I had just had a MC and was so scared it was going to happen again. this time i guess i am just more laid back about the whole thing, i just seem to know in my heart everything is going to be good.
1472934 tn?1327336950
I just found out on the third that I am pregnant.  I had to go to my in-laws for dinner last night and pretend that I was drinking a beer!  When they weren't looking I was pouring it in my hubby's glass!!  Not sure if they caught on, but I don't think so.  Would have been a definite sign if I had declined a glass of wine or beer!!  I really want to tell them, but feel like we should wait a little while.  It's so hard because I know they will be so excited for us!
1554910 tn?1297429911
That is a good trick with the beer! I was thinking of hiding a glass of Fre in my bedroom and switching it out if my sister came to visit this weekend (though I probably would have just told her), but she did not come and I tried the Fre and it is gross. That is a great story with Grandmother giving the news too!

Small world, sg10 - JC representin!
Avatar universal
:) definately small world. JC wow.
1556219 tn?1309548208
Good beer trick.  We want to wait till we are about 12 weeks but I don't know if we can.  I did smoke and drink once in a while,  right up until I found out on Friday that I was pregnant.  So when people see that I am not smoking it might raise some flags.  We might have to spill the beans a little earlier.
893889 tn?1294276977
what a good beer trick!!! I have been refraining from going out because as soon as I turn down a drink I know people will ask. Its hard enough to keep the news to myself because im so excited! due date is sept 7th
1556219 tn?1309548208
Congrats!  I know it's hard to keep excitement to a minimum but, we'll be able to tell they world soon.  Now, if only I could buy into what I wrote that would rock!
1472934 tn?1327336950
I am going away this weekend for an annual family reunion.  There will be almost forty of us spending the weekend in a hotel with each other.  This is going to be the real test!  If I can fake out all these people I am in the clear for a little while!  I need to formulate a plan. LOL!
1556219 tn?1309548208
Wow.  Good luck.  Stomach flu always works or you can't drink/smoke due to a prescription your on for female problems.  I actually used that once, just didn't say it was prenatal vitamins!

Worse part may be when you want to scream it at the top of your lungs and tell the world, sorry no quick fix for that but be strong.  
1554910 tn?1297429911
Wow babycrazy good luck. I like the flu/antibiotics idea. I got some NA beer and watched football this weekend, and when I told my family that was part of what I was up to (leaving out the NA part) it seemed to put them off the scent, plus it wasn't a lie which made it easier for me. Does your Mom know? If she does she can help you cover, since people might ask her what is up as opposed to you. We are telling immediate family Friday.
1556219 tn?1309548208
I think I love my doctor.  His assistant called with my second results for HCG (4099 up from 1118).  Doc said he knew I would be nervous (2 mc's) so I should come on in and do an ultrasound today! Yeah!  
1554910 tn?1297429911
How nice!
1472934 tn?1327336950
Poppi- I haven't told anyone except my hubby and you girls!  We really want to try to wait a while before letting anyone know. I would like to wait until 12 weeks, but I am thinking at this point is going to be way too hard.  I will at least wait until I go to the doctors in February before I tell anyone though!
1399033 tn?1449587779
Strange things happen in life. My granddad had been battling cancer for a while and got sick.. Jan 5th, he passed away in his sleep. On the 6th I found out I was pregnant. Wasn't due for my period for another 3 days and had no reason to test to be honest.... But I did and got a positive right away. I've taken a total of 10 tests now and they've all gotten darker. Today's was darker than the control line. My granddad must have talked to God for me because I'm pregnant and very happy about it.


Our family knows now and all of our friends... I'm not sure why, but I am confident about this baby and that it will all be okay.
1503874 tn?1312309466
Congrats to all you ladies!!! I am excited for you all!

I miscarried twins in early November @ 9 weeks and found out I was pregnant again January 4th. I am cautiously excited, and not telling anyone until we establish a heartbeat and know this little baby is ok :-)
Avatar universal
Only my husband and you ladies on here know about my pregnancy. We m/c'd in July, no one knew about that pregnancy yet, we decided not to tell anyone about the pregnancy or m/c. I'm 5 weeks now, hoping to get into the doctor soon. Once we find out if everything is ok, we will start telling people. My extended family is huge and everyone is really close, so once one person finds out, everyone does. Neither mine nor dh's parents can keep a secret (for long), so no one is going to know for a while yet. We will tell parents and siblings first, and they will probably take care of the rest!
1554910 tn?1297429911
We told our families and everyone is excited. My mother's verbal abilities have devolved into a steady stream of clucking noises and giggling and my sisters threw the ultrasound on the table screaming as soon as they realized what it was and then immediately started crying. We are holding off on everyone else for a while. I think I am having a hard time making this real without morning sickness or anything and the first picture and sharing the news have left me in a place where I am experiencing more fear and more joy but feel very supported and not alone in both.
1472934 tn?1327336950
I think I made it through my entire weekend family reunion without anyone figuring it out!  I really want to wait just a few more weeks until we spill the beans to everyone.  It's so stinkin' hard though!!
1556219 tn?1309548208
Congrats to both!  I so want to tell.  If not for hb I would tell the world.  But he's right, way too many people would be overly excited.  His mom is 83 and don't want to disappoint should something go wrong.  But between us, I told my daughter and that was exciting and relieving.  Will tell son this week.
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