I really appreciate all your great advice Ladies! It's really nice to have some place to go where no one is biased. I mean you can always get advice from your family and other friends around you but the advice from you Ladies is just good honest advice. I was concerned before that I would be a mom that will hold my daughter too much, but now I feel a bit more relieve that you guys agree with it too. I am just so excited to see her little face now and hold her sometimes it even makes my eyes water. Then again, i'm very emotional right now anyhow! :)
Again, I really appreciate it and it definitely helps!
I agree with all the other ladies! Great advice. I am 29 weeks pregnant with my 2nd daughter and I am so excited and a little overwhelmed for this next baby to come. The boppy was my best friend when I first started breastfeeding. It helped me position the baby and kept her in place while breastfeeding. I used it for a couple of months for breastfeeding help and then would use it for my baby to have for support for sitting. Don't give up if your baby has a hard time latching on or just won't seem to breastfeed. Take a deep breath and you can even call your hospital’s lactation nurses for help. In the beginning I wanted to give up on breastfeeding because she wasn't latching on properly but I stuck with it and exclusively breastfeed my daughter for 1 year and I am so happy I did that.
You can never ever hold a baby for too long. I don’t care what anyone says… it won’t spoil them. My daughter is very close to me and my SIL swears it’s because I held her too much as a baby. Ridiculous! Take lots and lots of pictures.. the time will go by so quickly. Just don’t worry and your learn all you go along. Trust your instincts.
Oh, and I never listened to people who said "you're holding the baby too much." In my opinion you can't hold a newborn too much, the time goes by too fast, enjoy, enjoy, enjoy!
Just like Destani214 said, sleep when baby sleeps!!! Laundry, cleaning, vacuuming, etc. will ALWAYS be there lol...just get rest when you can. You can always wear the baby in a carrier while you clean if they are fussy while awake.
Try to nap when the baby naps
Make sure you have a boppy! especially if you plan on breastfeeding. And look up videos of how to breastfeed online before you have her. It makes a world of difference. Trust your Maternal instincts when it comes to dealing with a fussy baby. make sure you take pictures everyday because they change so fast at the start. Most importantly make sure you take time to take it all in, enjoy every second you can, before you know it they wont be tiny babies anymore.
I may not have my son here with me yet, but I do know that you always trust your instincts. You trust your natural instincts any other time so try to pass it on with your baby. And as they've said before, sleep when the baby sleeps... the laundry, cleaning, organizing can wait. It's all worth it. Sometimes you may feel like you don't know how to control yourself around your baby when their fussy. You could become overwhelmed but do know that in time you will start to figure out their needs and wants and it will take patience. But you CAN do it. If someone gives you advice you don't want to hear or care to hear that the time, just gracefully "tell them thanks, I'll remember that" and do as you see fit. There will be family members, friends, etc that will always step in and tell you what you may be doing wrong, what they think you need to do, and how to do it. Just prepare yourself for that. Happens with everyone. It's already happening to me and I'm still pregnant Lol...
Also, make sure you clean around the belly button when you give them a bath and do not put them in water with the cord still attatched. Wash your baby's clothes in baby detergent. Not what you'd normally use. Their skin and little noses can pick up a heavy scent and may not make them or their skin feel very good. If you have any pets, keep them off the areas you may lie your baby down. I know a lot of moms get a baby changing table, but often they change the diapers on the bed out of comfort (depending on vaginal or c-section birth. Some vaginal births require stitches)
Can't wait to meet my little one. Congrats to you on yours :) I hope this helps.