How are husbands/fathers during pregnancy?

[Mummy2bea]

Im currently 16weeks pregnant and living alone away from my husband who went to go work in another city. The deal was that he was supposed to come back after a few months of working but now it's looking like his getting too comfortable working there as he likes it. Everyday we argue about him coming back. I don't feel like his been here at all for this pregnancy. I've just recently gone to a scan alone at 15weeks and although it was supposed to be a super exciting feeling I was just sad. I have been through out this whole pregnancy. Also I don't have my family around me Cus I moved when I got married last August. He doesn't ring me much or ask how am doing because he says his so busy with working for our child. What should I do? Am I over reacting? Cus I really feel like I'm in this on my own and it's not making me much happy about this whole pregnancy although I love my baby this is driving me insane. We're also having house trouble which is stressing me even more I have to be here looking for houses on my own and my inlaws aren't doing much either. What to do? And who to turn to in this situation

[AndrealuvsPancho]

I'm sorry to hear that your husband is so distant. :( my first child's father was like that. He's was a terrible partner to me but he's ok with her now that she's older. He's still terrible with me. My husband now is a lot better but a workaholic. He's been away for 3 weeks in another country and home for 10 days now he's off for 5 more weeks in a different country. I'm an awfully jealous person by nature and I do try my hardest to not be but it's difficult. He works really long shifts and yet trys to text or we use a free video calling app called Tango to video chat every other day. He's gone but at least he trys to all about the pregnancy. Honestly idk what to advise you about your husband. I was a single parent with my 13 yr old because I can't stand ill treatment. It was hard but my mom raised three of us by herself. I never thought I'd find a good man but I think I did. Well we do fight a ton about his work hours and he said that he needs to support us. I understand but I argue for balance in life. What's the point of being in a relationship if you're not spending quality time on a regular basis? I told him that when the baby comes, he works near home or I'm gone. It's his choice now. I'm older and don't have time for the games. For you I say listen to your heart and his actions will show you his intentions. Just be patient, have a plan and believe in yourself! Good luck!

[crissy4k]

I would feel lonely and upset because of not getting to share this journey with my husband. The only thing you can do is try to involve him by recording your dr visits. Mainly the ultrasound part. Also we have to remember that our significant others aren't carrying the child and don't possess the bond that we do. My husband hasn't been involved either because of his job. It's hard on me at times but I try to focus on taking care of myself and not worrying about everything. Just so you know your not alone. I hope things get better for you!