so over it

[MrsMorgan6]

I may sound crazy by venting on here but I've been with my husband since I was 18 I am now 29 and I'm expecting our 5th child and I'm so ready for a divorce I feel like I hate him now he's so mean to me he's 40 and he's like a grumpy old man. I'm overly confident that I can take care of my children on my own and be much happier doing it. The state of California won't let me surve him with papers until I have the baby but I'm ready now. I such a happy and optimistic person but although I have so many kids I'm still ready what do you ladies think?

[BabyWidmer]

If you ever want to talk you can message me. Women feel like they have to stay but honestly staying makes it worse because your lids can feel it too. I know my kids did and they were so much happier once I left my ex from abuse. You can do it momma!

[ElderBaby]

My understanding is that you can file and have him served now while pregnant.   The dissolution might be handled first and then the parenting plan/custody arrangements would be determined after a paternity test when the baby is born.

I encourage you to seek legal advice...an attorney or contact legal aid.  In washington state where I am from you can do it all yourself...it is difficult to understand all the nuances of it, but court facilitators make sure that you have completed the paperwork correctly and it's in proper legal format.

I wish you the best and hope that everything goes well.  I know you didn't say anything about domestic violence,  but that is one of the reasons why they discourage divorce while pregnant...most women and are killed when trying to leave/end the relationship.   If you feel endangered wait for the sake of your children and seek help within your community.

[MrsMorgan6]

Thank you for responding and your right I have it figured out I was trying to keep my family together but I can't go on like this.

[BabyWidmer]

If your not happy you should do what's best for you! It sounds like you already have it figured out