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21 years old, 39w 3d, second child. Mother passed away yesterday

Just going through a lot of stress trying to keep up my health for the baby and my son. Don't know who to talk to
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I'm so sorry, have you got other family you can go spend a few days with or visit x
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I do have family . It's just hard with them going through the same thing ya know . People keep calling to check on me . Sometimes I want to talk and others I don't
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I understand completely, perhaps see if any of your friends could come stay with you have a girly night, once your sons in bed watch a movie and have a chat about all the good memories you made with your mum. It's a hard time but you will come out the other end of it xx
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Sorry for your loss we lostmy mother last year due to stage 4 bone cancer on the 10th of nov. My sister was 5 months preg. & with all that stress, heart ach i know how bad it can hurt losing somene close.

Remember, she is no longer in any pain, not sure what you believe , but trust and believe she is at rest & in a better place than here.

I wish the best for you and your family. Time heals all wonds.
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Thank you . She had kidney and liver failure along with other multiple organ failure followed . She was strong and didn't want anyone knowing she was so sick . Finally she couldn't take the pain any more and asked me to take her to the e.r and 9 days later we took her off life support because she was just declining too fast for the medicine to heal . Her body was rejected dialysis. Instead of keeping her in pain and in a coma any longer we did what the doctor suggested and took her off everything, gave her a high dose of morphine so she wasn't in pain and held her hands until she was gone . It was the hardest thing I ever done . But today im back at life and trying to keep myself positive for my son . He's too young  to understand what's happened but he knows when I'm upset . I'm sorry I just vented so much I just kept typing once I started .
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Sorry for what? Its important to vent & get things off your chest so type away!!!

My issue is when I go through things like this I keep to myself, & block everyone out. So it's good your able to vent and clear your mind.

My 2 yo (at the time 1) had no idea what was going on. But my 6yo (then 5) knew. She was a little confused why grandma wasn't around anymore,  and at times when she would be mad at me she would yell I wanna go to grandma's!  It hurt cause I knew my mother was gone. Found hee calling my moms cell a few times as well.

But I'm happy you are finding your way through this.  
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I can't imagine how hard that was . Because at 5 they've formed a bond and she already knew who "grandma" was . I'm sorry you had to go through that . That's why I'm a way I'm glad he's so young being almost 2y but I know he loved her and that's hard enough . Life can be really unfair sometimes . I try to think that there's always someone having a worse day than me so that's why I do good at staying positive . But sometimes it's good to just break down and let all your feelings out. When I go over to get his toys from her house it's prolly gonna be odd for him . Just got to get over this initial hump . It will always hurt I'm sure you think about your mom a lot if not daily . But like you said things get easier to think about and remember with time
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Awee.. :-( yeah the toy thing was the hardest.  We still have toys, / cloths for my children that she bought & has grown out of or dont use anymore. I know it's silly to keep them but that's my way of coping.  

I couldn't imagine "pulling the plug" that had to been so hard on you + family and you are so strong for doing so.

The waiting & watching is the hardest.

My mother was fighting cancer for a long time. I remember last year in June, she said "when I die I want to guys to go through my things and split them up " between  me, and my two sisters,  of course I didn't wanna talk about my mother dying and taking her property!! So I just said "your not gonna die mom" end of conversation.

In Oct. She couldn't walk would cry cause she was in so much pain. Finally going to the hospital.  We can to seeher,  it's fine just a infection in my legs.

A few days after that my aunt called all of us up. Turns out my mother knew she was dying,  and my aunt told her it's best to tell us.  

So,  sleepless nights,  crying,  not eating,  I was lost confused.
I remember 5 am driving 20 min to the nursing home just to vent, tell her I'm sorry for my past. But when I got there, here she was, messing with the t v remote angry cause it wasn't working,  "help with this damn tv" she said. Almost made me feel "releaved seeing her, being her.

So a month went by with us knowing "anyday " I was hurt at her last breath, but releaved,  went out side for fresh air, looked up and smiled.  "Your free" I said to my self.

Sorry for the story. But just know she's watching you + babies right now and protecting you + family.  
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I'm sorry for your lost may the Lord continue to watch over you and your family during this difficult time. Keep your head up and continue to stay strong for your babies.
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Thank you very much
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I don't mind hearing other people's stories . Like I said ide rather talk to people about feelings thAn hold them in . Waiting so long for that day must have been tough . Not knowing what day you would wake up to that news for so long . I can't imagine. But being able to talk to her day by day must have been more "peaceful" if that's the right word . I'm bad at word choice . It didn't make it easier exactly but better for you to have her there still during her last months . No death is easy . Specially mom or dad . But I'm glad you shared your story with me . And I'm glad I got to vent to you
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I'm not gonna say I understand what your going through because I couldn't begin to imagine. I just wanted to tell you how sorry I am that you had to go through this.. I can't imagine your pain. I'm the same age and about to have my second baby as well. I am praying for you and your family❤️
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Thank you so much
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I know exactly what your feeling i lost my mother 3 months ago due to stage 4 breast cancer. My heart hurt and still hurts to even thinks shes gone. When i get sad i talk to my mom and i feel so much better. I didnt have anyone to talk to but just let it all out girl. Im so sorry for you loss may she rest in peace
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Im 38 weeks and only 18 going to have my second baby on November16 i dont know what u believe but i always would pray to god i knew he took my mommy so she wouldnt be in anymore pain. Im here if you need to get things off your mind

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