Aa
Feeling like a failure.
I'm 11 days overdue. I started getting contractions yesterday morning at about 1.30am... These continued until about 5.30am this morning.
That's 28 hours of contractions 3-5 minutes apart. I was 3cm dilated and almost completely effaced when they assessed me.
The contractions then just all of a sudden stopped. Bub is posteria and my back is absolutely killing me, to the point I just want to cry and cry.
They were going to break my waters this morning at about 8am but got too busy, did a stretch and sweep and sent me home until a room becomes available either tonight or early morning.
I just feel like I set my expectations of a completely natural birth way too high and now all I want is to hurry up, get induced, use medical intervention for the contractions and pain and have this baby!
I'm so exhausted mentally and physically. I feel like a failure for just wanting it to be over and done with already.
That's 28 hours of contractions 3-5 minutes apart. I was 3cm dilated and almost completely effaced when they assessed me.
The contractions then just all of a sudden stopped. Bub is posteria and my back is absolutely killing me, to the point I just want to cry and cry.
They were going to break my waters this morning at about 8am but got too busy, did a stretch and sweep and sent me home until a room becomes available either tonight or early morning.
I just feel like I set my expectations of a completely natural birth way too high and now all I want is to hurry up, get induced, use medical intervention for the contractions and pain and have this baby!
I'm so exhausted mentally and physically. I feel like a failure for just wanting it to be over and done with already.
The prelabor you went into did something, it helped your body to get more ready for the real thing. Alot of instances women who go into prelabor that stops their actual labor is shortened and easier. Hope for that!
:( I'm sorry to hear you are having a hard time. Don't be disappointed in yourself, you are creating and bringing forth life and that is an amazing and difficult process, no matter how it is done. You will make the right choices for you and your baby, and although I agree with your stance on a natural birth (as its my plan as well) don't feel bad accepting relief for your body. You are doing great, keep up the good work and know we are here for you !
Thank you ladies.
I just want to avoid an epidural but at this rate, it might give me a more pleasant labouring experience, especially with a posteria bub and a screwed up back. I'm a first time mum and did not expect or even imagine that labour would take its toll like this. I was expecting a 24 hour labour at most from first contraction to birth not a 28 hour first stage labour. Then when they stopped, I realized I now have to go through all that again plus some.
I know I shouldn't have had any expectations and I have gone into it all with a rather open mind but I'm just so disappointed.
I just want to avoid an epidural but at this rate, it might give me a more pleasant labouring experience, especially with a posteria bub and a screwed up back. I'm a first time mum and did not expect or even imagine that labour would take its toll like this. I was expecting a 24 hour labour at most from first contraction to birth not a 28 hour first stage labour. Then when they stopped, I realized I now have to go through all that again plus some.
I know I shouldn't have had any expectations and I have gone into it all with a rather open mind but I'm just so disappointed.
I have never gone overdue the latest I went was on my due date and I'm a complete wreck by the end. I can not even fathom how you are holding it together right now. You are NOT a failure, the end of pregnancy is unbelievably hard especially when you go into false or prelabor get your hopes up and its for nothing.
Awwwww please dont feel like a failure! Labor is hard work there is nothing wrong with wanting it over with!
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