Advice! Visitors at the hospital

[declansmama]

With my first, I lived in a different state and had no family or friends close by so I got to spend 4 amazing days alone with my son. But this time around I'm living near mine and my boyfriends family, everyone wants to visit at the hospital but I want that alone time to rest, bond and recoup. His cousin just had a baby and they let every single person visit, had up to 10 people in the room at once and that's not ok with me.

I'm curious as to when and how I should tell people. I'm only 20 weeks but feel it would be best now instead of at the end of my pregnancy when I'll be worrying about keeping my blood pressure down. I am OK with my mans parents and sister, as well as my grandparents visiting but no one else.

Anyone feel the same?! Any tips on how to tell or when to tell?!

Thank you all in advance!

[HackneyMummy]

I could have written this myself in my first pregnancy. My partner didn't understand not wanting EVERYONE at the hospital but I was massively against it. We needed time to bond as a little family unit before introducing everyone else.

I told people just after my 20 week scan and it caused huge upset, particularly in his family. They have taken it out on us ever since but I wouldn't change my decision if I could go back. Have courage in your convictions, it is a special time for you, baby and dad. Just try and reassure everyone that you will visit as soon as you feel able.

Good luck and congratulations!

[roflbecca]

Start telling people NOW.
Because if they protest, you can tell the hospital staff to not allow anyone to visit.

After I had my daughter, EVERYONE CAME. Family and friends from both sides were in my L&D room JUST AFTER I had her. It was nice at first, but I was so tired. It was not a good experience.

This pregnancy I don't want any visitors. Other than mothers from both sides.

[declansmama]

Thank you both! I'm feeling horrible about it and my boyfriend isn't helping because he doesn't understand but I feel a lot better. I think I'll start making it known now. I really wish I was out of state this time HA but really, it was much easier

[sweetbee3]

I have a big Italian family so I understand!!  But this is you + babies day. Just start telling them now honestly will take you farther than not saying anything at all.

[sweetbee3]

Honesty