Advice needed ladies

[MrsCookii]

So as you all know i had my little angel via emergency c section... she was in the NICU for only four days but she is home and doing great now. A few days after being sent home i started having problems breathing when I lay down so I went to the emergency room they told me I have pneumonia and put me on meds so I had to stop breast feeding. Well I wasnt getting any better I was actually getting worse so yesterday I decided to go back to the ER and they told me that it may not be pneumonia it maybe a problem with my heart... I cried for hours because since I lost my son I felt like I was getting a second chance with my little girl and now this. Last night my BD asked if he could take the baby to his house and I said no because I feel like my baby is safer with my mom. he got pissed off and caused this whole big thing at the hospital. So by now I am admitted into the heart center and he is still arguing with me about my baby. My BD is a great father he already has a 2yr old girl and he is great with her but its like 8 people in one house and all they do is drink and smoke all day. I know im being over protective since I lost my son but I just dont trust it and now I think our relationship is not going to survive after this. while i was pregnant i told hime my child will not be staying at his house until she is older but now its a problem.

he wanna say oh what do you know that i dont? im not saying i know anything but i know i dont want my child around a whole bunch of messed up people. so am i wrong for feeling like this? I really feel like my child is safer at my moms while i am getting better. now he is throwing it in my face how he helped me make her and if it wasnt for him i wouldnt have her. this whole thing is going down hill

[MrsCookii]

sorry its so long BUMP

[Kate037]

Stick to your guns hun. I'm sorry you have to go through this, the stress must be horrible. Make sure your mom knows that he can't take her so he doesn't try to.go over there and sweet talk his way into getting her. Good luck.

[iTsLeA]

First off i want to ask that God places a blanket of protection over you and your child. I all that whatever health problems you have God relieves your body of it. I pray that you have a speedy recovery and are reunited with your daughter asap..... Now was far as your bd: Your BD is bring very inconsiderate to your situation right now. As a mother your number one job is to protect your child from any harm or wrong doing. If bring with your mother us the safest place for your daughter than without a doubt leave her there... On the other hand you have to be honest with your bd about the reason you do not feel comfortable leaving him to care for her at this home...i.e tell him you don't want get around sonnets because its not healthy for her,etc. If he and your mother get along you may also give him the option of going over to your moms house and helping care for the baby there until you get home.

I hope all works out well for ! God bless

[2ndbaby77]

No your not wrong. Just stick to what you feel is right.

[rasberryxtreme]

I totally agree with kate! It's just going to stess you out more to be worrying about her at his house while.you're at the hospital. I hope things work out for ya, hopefully they're wrong about it being a heart condition :( Good luck sweetie!

[vrh123]

id keep her right with youur mom.
thats where youu feel she is safee, then thats the place she needs too be.

[kimmy7409]

I agree with Kate037.. stick to your guns. He needs to understand that at this time, your baby needs to stay with your mother until your better. He doesn't need to stress you out more, especially in your situation. hopefully you both can work things out once your better, good luck.

[MrsCookii]

My BD has been at my moms helping her and me but now he is saying he wants to take her so his family can see her but my thing is me and the baby was in the hospital for four days and nobody but his mom and sister came to see her. we were only 10min away from all of his family and an hr away from my mine and only mine showed up. so i told him i dont really care about them seeing her because they could have came to see her and chose not to come. so if they wanna see her they can drive to my moms! we were arguing so much last night that my blood pressure went up to 203/110 and now today we wont even look at each other. OH and he knows why i dont want her over there right now and why i am so over protective but he feels that even though everybody is smoking and stuff there are enough people there to take care of her

[MrsCookii]

Thank you ladies I just wanted to make sure I wasnt being to over protective she is only 11days oldo happen to her  and if something was to happen to my baby all hell will brake loose. I hope all the test come back good its really stressing me out. AGAIN THANKS LADIES

[Tay9662]

I agree if the environment isn't safe with him, but he wants to be a father to his baby too.. I would ask your mom if he could spend the night and help with the baby,

[MrsCookii]

He has been staying at my moms with me helping with the baby and my mom doesnt mind him being there he just wants to leave and take her with him. see at my moms he is not allowed to do all of that smoking and stuff so he wants to go where he can he think i dont know thats why... he complains about being sober everyday.