Am i being selfish?

[Jazminnewmommy]

Am I being selfish because I dont want my child's father to be around my son? I really had to think some things over and honestly I feel there's no purpose to having him around. I mean yea the thought of raising ya child with both parents together is a fun and happy thought but when I look at the reality of my situation no matter how many happy thoughts I have I just won't change the fact that I hate my son's father to the core. I mean seriously the whole pregnancy he's been of no help to me all he's done was stress me out and earlier in my pregnancy wished death on my child so when I try to work things out I just have flash backs like how can u even fix your mouth to say something like that about an innocent life u yourself created. No matter what a couple goes thru I feel like bringing the child up and saying such disrespectful things is beyond. Then I think about how he reacted when I did tell him we were having a boy and he's not doing anything. I mean everything my son has now is all because of me and I'm doing it alone. For months he's been saying he's gonna bring my sons things and still haven't and he's came up  here lately still empty handed but he does for his other son. I didn't make this child by my ****** self! So I feel like my mind is just made up I will be a good mother he's just useless. Every time we get in a argument he denys my son. Then when I act crazy he always complain and say there's something wrong with me. I hate men.

[Enacamel123]

Supper_mom said it all.

[super_mom92]

And btw to answer ur question, no ur not being selfish, your just weighing your options on what would be the better situation for your child. Everyone does it. Just remember not to have any hate or anger in your mind when making any important decisions.

[super_mom92]

Girl, first of all u need to relax. Seriously putting stress on your body and mind is going to put stress on your child. Yes men can be awful sometimes, but so can women. If you feel like u n him r done then it's ok to take into consideration raising the child alone...but u can't keep the child from him if he chooses to be in his life, unless you can prove that he is unfit to be a father, which is pretty hard to prove to courts. Idk him and I am not making excuses for anyone, but sometimes we say thing that we don't mean, and it's impossible to fix it. But we learn from our mistakes. You really just need to take a deep breath and take one day at a time. I'm really sorry that u r going through that and I'm really sorry that he is putting u through more stress than u already have, but u gotta have a clear mind when ur making decisions about your child. Please don't make any decisions when your angry. I wish you the best of luck with ur baby, and I really hope things start to look up for u. I'm sorry I couldn't be more help, but u are more than welcome to message me anytime u need to vent. ♡