feel so alone 38 weeks

[jackie_89]

I have a 4 year old daughter and im 38+5 weeks with number 2,my daughters father walked out on us the day she was born so she knows my partner as dad, my current partner is away in the army usually,he is on leave now till baby is born but seems to show no interest in the baby or my feelings and can be so cold towards my daughter its really upsetting me she thinks the world of him but he shows more attention to games consoles than his family,dont get me wrong if i need anything hes quick to ask but he is happier to sit infront of the tv all day when me and my daughter ae usually very active (now ive had pgp from 15 weeks been hit by a car at 31 weeks) but still its down to me to entertain my daughter and the dog im struggling to cope emotionally as he is so shut down and can barely walk in so much pain now and just want it all over with,sorry for the rant i really needed it :-S i dont understand why he still shows more interest in games than his family any input would be appreciated, or even someone going through something similar i feel so down and lonely

[jackie_89]

Thanks guys i spoke to him last night had my mental breakdown (pregnant flip out) he understands and is just his way of dealing with everything cant believe its taken this long to talk bout it all defo feeling better for it today grrr men hey lol from what i read up on loads of women around the 38 week mark seem to have a flip out not long before labour starts sorry for tmi lol but i think part of the mucus plug came away today this never happened with my 1st is this a sign its not much longer i even baught pineapples today in hope lol im so glad this forum is around dunno what id do without venting to others in a similar situation thanks ladies

[xoxKonna]

You shouldn't feel alone during your pregnancy especially when your partner is at home with you! I'm not sure your ages but I'm 20 my boyfriend is 22 and if he would treat my older daughter wrong and would play Xbox all the time I wouldn't have it! That's your daughter its up to YOU how shes treated but to me it doesn't sound like you nor your babies need to be disrespected. If I were you I would express my feelings to him when he comes home seems so me you have alot to say,if it helps I know it sounds silly but write it all down just to make sure you don't forget anything and then read it to him! I wish you the best, and god bless!

[lilpianogirl85]

Where is he on leave from?? I now it shouldn't matter but you have to remember what his daily grind is and what he might be used to. Being home might be an adjustment for him and playing mindless video games might be his way of coping. Not that he is justified in what he is doing. Maybe try to plan your day the night before with him and include him in it. Talk to him about how you feel and remember he might be dealing with alot, plus being a new dad on top of it might be alot he is not telling you. My husband used to be the same way, then we had our son and that changed. He still enjoys video games but he only does it in his spare time now

[momoftwinsgirls]

So I thought that feeling of not liking anyone would have pasted at the end of my first trimester, boy was I wrong. Now in my 3rd at 27 wks and the feeling increased to the max. Guessing at this with three hormones (mine and fraternal twin girls may be the reason. At this point I've set my cell to reject all calls until I give birth. Honestly I feel better especially away from people who keep trying to tell me do this and that and not making suggestions. This isn't my first pregnancy, but my third and 2nd set of twins. oldest twins 15 yrs and a 14 yr old.

[JanieceMobley]

Awe Jackie I understand what you going through! Sometimes We as women especially pregnant women, we require much more Attention and Consoleing and I feel that you should Vent And talk it out with Him understanding And Communication is the Best Thing! Maybe he's unaware so just try talking to him!

[hersheyma]

Sorry you feel so alone...have you tried expressing your feelings? Maybe you need a mini getaway...get together with s girlfriend for shopping and lunch...

[Amiyahserenity2325]

Thats tuff to deal with... Maybe you should talk to him maybe he is unaware that he isn't paying attention to his family... He also may be dealing with something from being in the army and the game is a outlet for him