I really need some encouraging words.

[collinsmumma]

I don't know what to do anymore. I'm constantly crying because I feel bad for my baby, like I'm failing him before he's even born. He deserves better than me... Everyday my boyfriend makes me feel so unwanted.. He's so cold and mean. Every time I hug him he rolls his eyes, if I tell him I wanna snuggle he tells me no and to not be a baby, he's miserable every time he spends a whole day with me. Always calling me fat, stupid, ugly. He says he's joking but to hear that every single day just isn't funny. Its very hurtful.. I love him and I want my son to have a true family, not a broken up with me and it kills me that he might not get that.. :/ I always tell my bf I'm gonna leave and I never do or I do and I always come back even though he doesn't even ask me to... I feel so dumb and I need some advice. I can move back to my moms if I need to ( although I don't really think she wants me and a baby there ) it just upsets me that instead of my son coming home to his own room and home he's gonna end up coming "home" to one bedroom at my moms house shared with me.. :( I know he's just a baby and won't know the difference but I will...

[hothotsauce]

Is that the kind of model you want for your son to grow up with? That kind of dad and that kind of relationship between mom and dad? If not, its your responsibility to leave.

[L1lRed]

It's very easy to say leave and I do think it's the right thing to do, but I understand it's very difficult in reality.  Just from the few details you give about your situation, I think ultimately you should leave FOR your child.  Your partner doesn't seem to be exuding many redeeming qualities, in the area of family and sensitivity, both of which are much more important to raising a child than his own room.

I agree with what was said above, you should start saving for a place of your own, but if you can, leave now and stay with your mom.  Pregnancy is hard emotionall, without all the negative nonsense you're being put through.

Take care of yourself, mentally and physcally, that's the best thing that you can do for your baby.

[eesscott]

It's much better for you to be on your own raising a child than having your child witness that kind of abuse.  You don't want to teach your baby that it's the right way to treat someone.  :-(  There are people and services that can help you get away.

[mama_1990]

Girl get your stuff pack it and move to mama's house... That baby is going to appreciate a well stabled mom than having his own room and mommy getting depressed cause daddy is a jerk. Put you abd that baby first I can almost guarantee he'll come around and want you back after he sees that your standing your ground.

[maw4389]

Leave. Don't stay just because of the baby. No baby should be brought up in a verbally abusive environment like that.

[Jennifer1233]

Sounds like you feel stuck. You have to stay strong for you and your unborn child. If your boyfriend really loves you he shouldn't be calling you names period he should have respect. I would definitely move out of there asap for the sake for you and your uunborn baby.

[delizzzo delizzzzzo]

Well by him treating you that way its not only affecting you but your pregnancy as well its not ok for him to treat you that way and its better for your son to come home to grandma even if hes a lil crowded there intill your able to get on your feet and get your own place than for him to come into an unhappy home where his mother is always being put down and you being unhappy is gunna affect you and its gunna affect the type of mother you become how can you be the best mother you can be if your always gunna be feeling horrible about youself girl i say you leave him and start getting ready for baby on your own hopefully he changes but he aint gunna changes as long as you let him treat you that way he has no reason to change why you aint leaving him you deserve to be happy thats all

[collinsmumma]

I really don't know if I should stay or leave.. I know I should leave because he's sending me into a depression by treating me like this every single day but I feel bad for my baby...

[lukasproudmama]

Oh sweetie, I don't think any woman should be treated that way, I think is true what ftmnervous says, u should get out of there, if I were u, I would go home until I get enough to move to my own place, you don't deserve to be treated that way, specially by the father of ur child

[Ksp111513]

A real family doesn't treat each other the way your boyfriend is treating you, that's not healthy for you or your baby.  Your mental health is extremely important as you become a mom.  It's hard but you can do it, and you don't need a bad got bringing you down. You need to take care of yourself in order to best take care of your baby.  Sounds like you don't need this guy, he's not going to change once the baby arrives, if anything it will put a strain on your relationship even more.  Good luck and stay strong!

[ftmnervous]

I think you should start saving up and get your own apartment. You deserve so much more than that and if he can't see that then for your own good and the good of your child as well as your wellbeing you should get away from him. No man has a right to call you anything but your name or baby . I understand you don't want a broken home for your baby but maybe you actually leaving and getting your own place will make your boyfriend realize you are worth so much more. Maybe it will change him maybe not but you have to do what's best for you .

[JaynGemMommy]

I understand exactly what your going through. 27 weeks in and we have a four year old. Men do not understand the many emotions we go through. As woman we want to make our family work
So we put up with a lot more. Us mommies just have to stick together men will never understand