Babys grandma

[Cindy0624]

so last month the grandma (dads side) had asked wat stroller i wanted n i told her exactly the quinny even sent her a picture of it. Me n the baby father dont speak cuz everytime i hit him up for anythin bout the baby he ingores me. I had asked him if he was gettin her anythin n he didnt write back. His mother says he doesnt have to write back to me or be dere until the baby is here which i dont agree with, i think the day should be dere from day one,u knw how the appointments r goin n everythin. Anyway today she sends me a picture of a stroller dat i didnt ask for n i told them dat wasnt the stroller, so she started callin me ungrateful n dat im only thinkin bout myself which is not the case at all. Everytime i hit anyone from his side of the family up or even him dey ingore me,if dey would had took the time to write back n communicate with me dey were gettin the stroller den maybe i wouldnt be so upset. So i said she sounds stupid n now dey all mad at me, but like am i wrong ? Cuz i think he should be communicatin with me ?

[unknown_jones]

You welcome Cindy. Wishing you n baby a happy life.

[milafilyk89]

Sounds like he's a flake. I wouldn't even want him in the baby's life, or he's family. I'm a proud woman maybe, but you deserve respect. If they want anything to do with the baby, than they should split responsibilities and costs at least 50/50. Yes I wouldn't even want to be in a relationship with such a flake, but no judgment,  life is not always how we plan. I think you'll be better off being on some government support programs for low income single moms, vic programs, while baby is small. Be strong, you can make it on your own. Ask your family for help. Ask God for help, He'll come through, you'll see. I have utmost respect for single women who choose life for their babies, because it's your blood, not just his.

[Cindy0624]

Thank yu unknown_jones

[unknown_jones]

Also I've had a child support order for years and I never receive a penny. He works jobs off the books and dodges child support. When found he rather go to jail than make payments, just sad. So don't count in that, do your best for you and your child.

[unknown_jones]

Your not wrong. I mean why ask about a specific item and not get what was requested? That does sound stupid. Your also not wrong for wanting him to be apart of the pregnancy, you guys created life together. Unfortunately you can't make anyone do anything that they don't want. Your situation is a hard one and I can relate. I was with a guy for 5yrs, had baby and he abandoned us months later. I was acquainted with his whole family and felt if he wasn't going to play an active role at least his mom should, my son is her grandson. I'm not talking money, I just wanted them to have a relationship with him and for him to know his family. 8yrs later this is still not the case. My son's family sees him maybe 2x a year, crazy right? I no longer make a big deal about it. I'm married to someone else and he and his family treat my son the same as the son we share. Yes my son knows the difference because his real family comes and goes but, he knows his stepdad n I love him very much. If his family never comes around I can't force them, they are the ones that will have to make it up to my son later in life. Moral is your going to have to be really strong for you n baby. Sometimes its going to seem really unfair but your a mom now and mom=superwoman. His family may or may not come around but that is out of your control. Surround your baby with positivity and love.

[wiggles2015]

I think he needs to be there for you and your bub just my own opinion. Because 1. It takes two to make a baby. 2.he should show that he cares about his child which it sounds like he doesn't. But I do also agree with the above poster go get attorney. Plus you can get child support from him to help raise your child. And who cares what his family says

[DallasMom11]

You're asking a legal question and every situation is unique. I highly recommend actually doing some legwork and talk to a lawyer. Unfortunately there is no one solution to your problem. Sorry if that's not the answer you're looking for but that's why attorneys exist.

[Cindy0624]

Anyone with a better answer pleAse ?

[DallasMom11]

These questions are best asked to an attorney. I help women in situations like yourself where I live for free (it's called pro bono) by going after deadbeat dads and doing what's best for the baby. Please contact a lawyer in your area.

[Cindy0624]

Sorry so long im 23 weeks pregnant n dis was a guy i was with for 5 YEARS n when i got pregnant he decieded he didnt want anythin to do with me so doesnt bother respectin me or writin back n his mom is basically tellin me hes right ? Is he ? How ?