My kids are 14 months and 2 days apart. My kids' dad was like a piece of furniture whenever he wasn't working...no help at all. I just got pointers from my Dr on how to involve my son with my daughter's pregnancy. It took a lot of pressure off of me. When I wasn't feeling well he took it easy on me and would rub my belly. They are super close now. My Dr also gave me big tips on dealing with my anxiety. While its hard now just know potty training will be much easier with them close in age and they will entertain each other which will eventually give you more time to yourself. Your boyfriend might just be stressed trying to provide and not mean to come off so insensitive. One of those walk a mile in my shoes then complain type things. You guys are both under a lot of stress just different sides of it. Stay strong mama you'll make it!
I am in the same boat. I am 19 weeks pregnant and my son is 15 months old. He is hyperactive and I am constantly chasing him. My husband is never home. He is always working. I almost had a nervous breakdown today ! Men just don't get it and can never understand how it feels to be pregnant and taking care of a child .. I want to give uu a hug ! I need one too ! If you live in Maryland , maybe we can get together and help each other through this .
Best of luck..
Mine will be a year old tomorrow and I am having my c section in 53 days..and I am just exhausted..it wouldn't be so bad but I have a 5 and 8 year old also to get to school and run back and forth with..I feel like I just need a nap constantly but I just dont get one..my husband is always gone trying to provide for the 6 of us
I have 2 years old twins, one has ASD. Im 20 weeks pregnant. My husband works overseas. I feel you. I know that stress you're going through is so hard. If i didn't have the blessing of living with my parents while husband is away (though its sometimes ANNOYING) i would have collapsed. But hey.. this is an opportunity for you to teach your son to be more independent. Is he eating, sleeping, drinking alone? I did all the training now because frankly a baby crying for a bottle in the mid of the night is not so heartbreaking when your main goal is for ALL to get a good sleep before the next little cute crier arrive lol
The best thing I must say is express your feelings. My husband use to work 12 he shifts and I would have to cook clean, bathe or 3 yr old son. Not to mention the pelvis pain back pain, thighs, you name it. You have to sit down with them let them know what is bothering you. I don't get help with my son at all either. It got so difficult my son and I showered together. I told him help me round the house. I know it's more difficult for you all since your little ones are much younger. But I'm telling you. Talk it out.
Dont be sad the son is urs and the baby ur carrying is also ursits tough i know but time will fly soo fast u wouldnt know tht and ur and next six months u will see how they will start becoming best friends :) as far as ur bf men are like tht thy just cant understand women feelings
There are alot of women who go through this its depend how u deal with it by making urself depresss u wont be able to take care of ur kids n urself take it as challenge and face with happiness
Good luck
Me too im losing it i breakdown and cry because how crappy i feel like the worst mom ever my son is 17months and im 27weeks pregnant also like you ladies hubby works almost all day so im stuck at home with my inlaws..my son recently started acting out to the point he will throw up after crying and yelling when he doesn't get his way and inlaws just making things worse whenever im trying to discipline him and i say no they say yes or they make him mad on purpose and im the one that deals with the tantrums and they look at me like i suck at being a mom sometimes i just get soo overwhelmed i go to my room and cry out of anger and i hate myself for feeling so angry when son throws tantrums idk what to do. Like my son is the best that has ever happened to me he is the biggest blessing in my life but i feel im doing something wrong and husband doesn't really understand how i feel.. What can i do to have more patience and tolerate things
Im sort of in the same boat but im 23 weeks and my son is 13 months. My boyfriend also works stupid hours so he cant help much, leaving me on my own a lot. Don't be so down on yourself/: just find other ways to help your son. Babies are a blessing but definitely not an easy one! Take baths when your son is sleeping if you can and just take some you time at any possible moment. Also, maybe try talking to a doctor about your obstacles to see what they recommend. It is possible and it is very hard! You can do it. Just keep your head up (: