Lonely

[ketchup21]

I know it's early (5 weeks and 4 days), my husband and I are so excited and it's our first. I'm just feeling lonely in that I can't tell anyone! I can't say I'm sick or tired or sore or why I'm moody. I have to put on this secondary personality where I say I'm fine and and not constantly feeling like I'm alone with friends, colleagues and family. I think it would be easier if I wasn't suffering the dreaded morning sickness most of the day. Anyone felt/feeling anything similar? How do you cope until 12 weeks?

[snowyaj]

I know how you feel. I'm just under 7 wks and we've e only told the people who are important to us as it's still a private we want to keep to ourselves for another few weeks. My difficulty is I'm a rugby player and I'm finding it extremely difficult to not tell the squad as not going to training is hard, but it will be worth it in the end!!! Its a personal choice whether or not to tell at this stage.

[catfairy1221]

I told my family and friends when I was 19 weeks.  Well my husband and my mom knew. I keep to my self because I had few miscarriage before.  It depends on how you feel telling your love ones.

[jojo33]

I am six weeks and three days and we have been telling people.  I have been so sick.  I want to embrace the life with my baby now in the moment

[mstancil]

I'm 7wks and 2days I've already told everyone. I miscarried in April this year it was easier cause I had support from everyone. I miscarried at 8 wks and 4 days.

[mstancil]

I'm 7wks and 2days I've already told everyone. I miscarried in April this year it was easier cause I had support from everyone. I miscarried at 8 wks and 4 days.

[Bexoakes3]

Sympathetic**

[Bexoakes3]

I'm always way too excited so I announce usually by 8 weeks to the world ha-ha. I agree with mrsp416 in case of a miscarriage, I would want the support of everyone around me. I would not want people saying, so, when's the next one? Or making jokes if I've just had a miscarriage. I would rather people's sensitivity than obliviousness. But I'm pretty open with my life for the most part. Baby number three and 16 weeks. I won't stop worrying until my baby is out, but I liked having people be understanding and somatic through the morning sickness since it's horrific for me the first trimester.

[mrsp416]

I DO NOT belirve in keeping pregnancy hidden until 12 weeks here is why...people arent stupid they know life happens and things happen. Your Family should know so in the event heaven forbid something went left your family is there for you supporting yiu through a difficult time. My mom had 3 babies and lost 3 babies i NEVER wanted to go through that pain alone if i had to i wanted my family knowing and helping me. Luckily i am on baby #2 26 weeks she is great but i do not believe in keeping pregnancy a secret. Good luck

[Toosweet2787]

You are very welcome enjoy every moment and my little one is causing me horrible fatigue and morning sickness again so I'm right there with you. Good luck!  ^U^

[Jonesy2015]

Lol I was so excited I told everyone as soon as I found out. This is my 2nd. I did it both times. I'm 28 weeks now and this little by doesn't stop moving!

[ketchup21]

Oh I'm so thankful for all you! Thank you for the kind words and I hope your pregnancy is wonderful and I wish you the best of luck.
I think because it's my first we are cautious because we don't know what to expect. I've heard such horror stories but also some wonderful miracles, I feel so blessed. It's been a hard couple of weeks waking up at all hours just feeling so sick. I'll be trying some of the great suggestions fingers crossed.
Thanks again ladies!

[Toosweet2787]

You are not alone on that I was the same way this pregnancy and I still kinda have to keep it hush hush. But that's because I am in the rare group of women who technically can't prove via hcg hormone they are pregnant. And the fact I think I was pregnant with triplets and had vanishing twin syndrome for two of themand not wanting to tell any news anymore due to I thought I was loosing this pregnancy twice now. And I kept it a secret till I was at least 12 weeks because what happened last pregnancy ...

I told everyone at 9 weeks 4 days and ended up having a full blow misscarage at 11 weeks 6 days only 4 days after my husband was ready to except the fact and said for the first time that he loved our little one.

You can tell family and friends that you caught something "possibly the flu" to explain away the morning sickness since it is cold and flu season.
I wish you all the best ... and if you ever feel you need to talk we are always here for you by the way this will be my first too so I understand where you are coming from I don't know if what I'm feeling is little kicks or my heart beating really hard.  I'm as of today 16 weeks 6 days along.

[APauling]

I agree with ketchup. Think of a few close people you can tell, such as your moms, close friends, and even a close coworker. That way when you're not feeling well, hubby isn't taking all the stress! Also, realistically, if you did have a miscarriage, chances are good it would come out to your mom and close friends at some point anyway. It would be helpful to have their support if you have to go through that as well. We told my parents and my hubby's parents, brothers, and their wives (whom we're really close to), plus I told my two aides at work (I'm a teacher) so they were aware of why I might be off my game a bit at times and could jump in to help!

[Miyu19]

Thank you dear. I'm sorry to hear about your husband's grandma. My auntie in laws mom had stage 3 breast cancer and riddled with tumors. She apparently ate dragon fruit everyday for I'm not sure how long, but its completely gone now. Her husband is one of those that would rather let her die than get treatment people, so she was only able to eat the fruit. Maybe that can help some.

Good luck with everything! =)

[ketchup21]

You are so right,  I'm sorry about your dad I hope he recovers well, we have a similar issue with my husband's grandma, she has been diagnosed with breast cancer so we are trying not to overwhelm people but it just doesn't seem like the right time announce anything. I'd love to be able to blurt it out and say hey I'm tired, grumpy, sick and PREGNANT! I'll have a think about it all and who I could lean on for support other than my husband who already does so much for me.
Thanks again!

[Miyu19]

You're welcome. For announcing the baby to everyone else, many do wait since it's out of the more dangerous period. Miscarriage rate drops in the second trimester.

You need a support system and those closest to you are best. We didn't tell my dad yet since he's dealing with medical issues and I don't want him worrying about me or the baby (I'm still his lil girl and he worries so much about me that he can't sleep sometimes according to mom). He needs to relax and recover.

With support, your stress level will drop tons (for me it did) and it's healthier for you and baby. I'm so much happier being able to talk to them since hubby is stressed about other stuff so I don't complain to him, Im his support haha.

[ketchup21]

Thank you, I thought it was taboo to tell everyone prior to 12 weeks not sure why though. Scarily I've read a lot about people who have miscarried this early on.

[Miyu19]

Are you keeping this pregnancy quiet until the second trimester?

I told my best friends who would keep it it quiet and my mother, who is so excited and constantly giving me tips. They always check up on me and I can always be myself around them or talk to them. Would telling a few close people be so bad?

For my coworkers, they are always sick with something or exhausted so no one questions me lol

You can always say you have a minor stomach bug or vertigo.

For morning sickness, try royal jelly, sea bands, sour candies, ginger. A tsp of bentonite or diatemaceous earth mixed with 8 oz of water can help. I take that every morning with a tsp of solay. It completely went away when I started the earth and solay everyday. I also take propolis, royal jelly, and bee pollen in the morning and night.

Good luck with everything!