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Boyfriends and doctor

Am I the only one who experiences problems asking my boyfriend to Go to my ultrasound check up a.. It's like he just isn't interestes in coming.. I wonder y that is... Is it because its not the actual baby its just the doctors appointment? Just curious
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Reading yalls comments made think I'm the only one who doesn't want my SO to go to appointments... I'm perfectly fine going by myself t h e regular checkups he really doesn't really need to be there. An I'm high risk so for him to take off for every sonogram would be ridiculous. I honestly think there no reason for the men to come. Maybe I an just weird
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Lol same here....if he wants 2 miss out who cares. Mine comes if I ask but it is not that exciting..unless it is ultra sound. Even then its hard 2 understand for some.
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It's nothing wrong with them not wanting to be at the doc , mine is so excited about being a new dad but he doesn't feel the need in going to every apt , except the gender reveal and last one , they get bored , they don't know what the doc is talking about so it's like why even be there as long as he is there when you have the baby and there for you afterwards it's nothing to worry about
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Honestly though I know the actual appt is boring we wait like an your or hour in half to talk to doctor for 2 mins.. I haven't asked him to come to that just ultrasound... He don't wana go to those he asks why is it important iF i know what she is already
He had only went to 1 ultrasound and that wasn't even the anatomy scan
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same here, but he's kind of a jerk any ways so no surprise. I'm honestly not even counting on him for the birth. I've learned I can only count on myself and I'm fine with that.
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My boyfriend tells me he won't be on the delivery room.. This its my first kid... Honestly I'm kinda scared to be by myself.
Not really understanding why he's telling you he won't be in the room? I mean is this his way of telling you he's not going to bed there at all? Ever?
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Mine is the same, it's like he just doesn't care
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I've heard that it's really difficult for guys sometimes to feel a strong emotional attachment to the baby before it's born. It's different for us, since we're incubating for 9+ months and we feel everything and experience everything. For guys - until the baby is really here and they can bond with it as well, some guys have a bit more of a detachment from it all.
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My boyfriend does the same thing ...I guess everyone is different he did the same with our last baby he was just excited when the baby actually came he wanted to be there then
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Mabey that's all it is. I hope
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It would hurt me if he didn't come. My fiancée came to everything. Tell him how important it is to you and this is his unborn child. Especially if he can see the baby through ultrasound. If it's just a check up and he can't come in than different story.
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I'll be 35 next month n my boyfriend will be 41 on Monday and this is our first baby and he go to every appointment with me even wen I don't want him to go cuz he ask a lot of silly Question Which get on my.Nerves
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Maybe you should ask him about it? Not while you're angry with him, just ask him if it's because he thinks it's boring or what. Otherwise you won't find out. :)
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Could just be certain guys. My s/o was the opposite and it felt like he was the one concerned and asking most questions with the doctors lol. He went to every appt. This pregnancy he has gone to about 2 of my 5 appts, due to work, and keeping our one year old occupied. Dont stress about it though:) some guys dont understand there is actually a baby, until you give birth.
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My husband works 3rd shift, always has. And with all three of our pregnancys he's so excited to go! .... up until now.. he started the same old same at the beginning of this one, now only wants to come to the ultrasound appointments. Which to be honest I can't be mad...  I think the other appts are boring. We get so excited to see the ultrasounds! Soooo maybe he's just board with it.  Not with you or baby, but but the routine of the appts.  Perhaps ask him why? Communication is the best for a healthy relationship
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He couldn't be bored he had only went to one ultrasound an that wasn't even the anatomy scan I went to that one by myself just like all the rest of my ultrasounds.. I don't expect him to go to the appt an I've told him that I would just like it if he came to a Few ultrasounds...
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Im 6 almost 7 weeks along been to 2 doctors visits and blood tests. My partner is coming with me and is very excited. 4 weeks until  we get to view our little blueberry we are both super excited. I hope things will get better for you and your partner will want to be more involved in your pregnancy
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I had my first born last year and my boyfriend came to every ultrasound because he was excited about being a dad, but this time he came to the gender and 4d one and thats it, hes just hanging for second bubs to be born
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I am currently pregnant with #4. And very lucky husband is the opposite. He comes to ultrasounds. But he doesn't come to antinatal appointments. But I have told him it isn't worth it. Sometimes you can be waiting for hours for a five minute appointment. And they only ask how you are going. Nurse checks heartbeat and everything before
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My boyfriend was excited in the beginning to go. Now I think he has gotten bored with the appointments.  We had quite an argument about him not fixing his work schedule around an appointment one time.
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