Child support question

[Mama2b91]

I have decided to apply for child support as soon as the baby is here but have a few issues.

I do not know the baby's dads address, national insurance number or date of birth.

I still have his mobile number and of course I know his full name and occupation. He's in the armed forces and I know where's he's based but don't have his service number or any specific details.

Is there any way CSA could find out the information I don't have themselves?

I'm sure it's required and want to get it sorted as soon as my baby's born. He has already asked me not to ask him for money as he doesn't want to be involved in the child's life but I will be struggling without it.

[KelzLanigan]

A father within the UK will always have rights to the child by law… they dont have to be on the birth certificate and they cant wave the rights either ! only a court of law can take either rights and thats only in rare cases

[Janetjean]

You can get help from other places don't worry and I live in California but I believe that is a government rule set everywhere it's basically like protecting them if you have your child and he has any rights to your baby the government has to set them up with health care and free education and Exc but if he waves his rights they are not obligated to give your child anything but you can still get help being a single parent the can give you wic and food stamps and medical for baby at least that's how it is here

[Patriciaaa02]

Wat  @maw4389 said ^ agreeee

[maw4389]

It was your decision to not ask for anything and then you changed your mind without telling him. As rockrose said, you're just gonna have to toughen up and at least tell him. It's the least you can do. That's a total blindside and slap to the face to just serve him with papers without telling him it's coming especially when you told him you wanted nothing from him. Sorry to come off as rude and harsh but that's just the reality of the situation. Think about if the roles were reversed. How would you feel?

[RockRose]

You might have to toughen up and just accept that he's going to be verbally abusive.  That's just the kind of guy he is,  sounds like.

I still recommend you give him the chance to give you all the information you need.  He really doesn't want to appear to be shirking his duties,  in front of his commanding officer.

I'm sorry you didn't go over a budget earlier than this,  so you would have had more time to file for child support.  

Best wishes.

[Mama2b91]

If I do contact him to tell him I'm going to get abuse from him and that's all I already know.

And I wasn't going to ask him for anything but after looking over everything I won't be able to make payments and look after my baby on my own so would need this.