Depression

[KarleisMommy]

I'm not sure if this has anything to do with my pregnancy or not, but I've been suffering from depression for a while now. If I think back on it I feel like it started when I got pregnant even though I knew I was having emotional problems before I was pregnant. I wish I could say how far along I am but I honestly don't know. I'm supposed to be 31 weeks but the doctor said I'm measuring 33 weeks. I just want to know if it's consistent with my pregnancy or if it's just me? Please let me know.

[KarleisMommy]

What exactly is a MOPS group? I was raised in church but it got forced down my throat so much that I made the decision to quit going. I used to have friends but where I live your friends are drug heads, so I chose to stay away from that. I hate feeling helpless but then I hate feeling like I'm playing victim too. You know? It's not that I haven't tried to help myself it's that people are so judgemental around where I live that if you don't think the same way or act the same way around someone then you're pretty much a piece of crap. Usually I wouldn't care what people thought about me but it gets to me so much now. I'm not suicidal at all but I figured maybe if I called the help line that they could help me but they didn't do anything for me. I've tried a councilor but my husband just thinks it's crazy for me to go to counseling. I didn't go enough to find out if it helped because he made fun of me for going. I just wish that with life you didn't have stress. I'd be okay then. The sad thing is that I don't even know what I'm stressing about or what I'm feeling down about.

[love_being_his_mrs]

I'm sorry you feel like asking for help is weakness. I felt like that for many years but I can tell you this you end up only hurting yourself. I bet you have more people than you think who would do anything for you. It sounds like it's less hormones,  more life stress. You can't hold everything together all the time. You're going to see how we all need each other. Maybe join a MOPS group? Are you involved in a church? I go to a Calvary Chapel and I love it. I'd encourage you to reach out and take some risks, I'm sure you're an awesome girl who'd be a great friend and could give and get a lot in friendships :)

[KarleisMommy]

Another thing is that I honestly don't have any friends. None. And my family supports me with the pregnancy seeing that um only 19. But in my family I've always been strong and powerful independent.. and I feel like if I ask for help it shows that it nothing.

[KarleisMommy]

It's okay. Thanks. I just have a fear of taking medicine. I don't want nothing to happen to my baby and I have so much guilt built up of loosing my first child because I said I didn't want it right now and then I lost it and I'm just scared to take medicine. And I'm afraid to talk to the doctor because I don't want him thinking I'm crazy. I've had problems before that never got solved, it's so much easier to not talk about my feelings or anything and it just over powers me. I can ask for help on here because no one knows me. But in person I feel like it's a sign of weakness to ask for help..

[love_being_his_mrs]

It's not just hormones, having a baby is a major life event that causes stress and many emotions which can be overwhelming and lead to depressed feelings...and with hormones in the mix it's easy to feel down. Talk with your Dr, but reach out to friends and family too :) talking things out has amazing benefits!

[adanae11]

If you are feeling that it is bad enough,  talk to your doc about it. There is meds you can take that are safe for baby. I didn't need them with my first pregnacy but I did with this one. My mom had 6 kids and needed it with 4.