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Falling Apart What should I Do?
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and 2 months and we are going to be very young parents. It has been really hard because his whole life he's had to do everything himself and I've always been so dependent on my parents. Before I got pregnant I really wasn't doing anything to win in life and now that I'm 32 weeks + 4 days I can do what the normal person can. We're both really into fitness and after this pregnancy I want to be extremely fit but he doesn't believe I'll do anything. I feel he resents me because I'm the one who's pregnant and because I didn't do anything before he doesn't believe I will in the future. He sees it as he's working all the time and trying to support me and the baby and I tell him how much I appreciate him but while he's working he sees I'm doing nothing. What can I do to show him instead of say I appreciate him and what can I do now that I can't work?
You can say you appreciate him all you want. Unfortunately, you need to show it. My husband works and I am a stay at home wife right now. Drives me nuts not working but we moved to a different state and I got preggers immediately. I show him that I appreciate him. I do most of the cooking, where he used to, clean and do all bills. Yeah sometimes I feel like Betty Crocker meets Merry Maids but in order for him to feel appreciated after working a long day, its what needs to be done.
Caylee, your post is a little vague about how old you are, how completely you were dependent on your parents, and what your plans are in the future.
Being extremely fit is kind of a hobby and very time consuming and self-indulgent. While you're doing your fitness routines you aren't really productive, and can't be working toward mutual goals.
Being healthy, getting exercise and eating right is a great goal - but the extreme fitness is self-serving and doesn't help anyone else out at all.
It's kind of wise of him to make predictions about your future based on past behavior.
All you can do is show him you will be more independent and productive is be independent and productive.
Best wishes. It sounds like your heart is in the right place.
Being extremely fit is kind of a hobby and very time consuming and self-indulgent. While you're doing your fitness routines you aren't really productive, and can't be working toward mutual goals.
Being healthy, getting exercise and eating right is a great goal - but the extreme fitness is self-serving and doesn't help anyone else out at all.
It's kind of wise of him to make predictions about your future based on past behavior.
All you can do is show him you will be more independent and productive is be independent and productive.
Best wishes. It sounds like your heart is in the right place.
Cook dinner run him a bath give him a little massage. Talk about the future after the baby nd tell him how you feel about everything he's said don't argue just talk if it turns into him getting upset let the subject go nd just show him with actions
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