Fear

[first_time_mama_with_summer_baby]

Hey everyone. I am having my first child (little girl !) and I can't seem to escape people putting fears in my head. Like yesterday I had someone tell me cause the past couple of days my babe wasn't too active but now she is they decided to tell me my baby might be dying. That really broke my heart. My family is known for having really healthy babies so I think I will too but everyone still likes to tell me stuff that puts fear in my mind. Anyone have advice to help me clear my head? And ignore these people? I talk to her and sing and read stories and me just talking to her seems to help us both. Please help this new mom. She will be here in June or July and I really just want to be as stress free as possible til then. Thank you

[bambi1984]

Have a scan in the last trimester if you're in the UK as 20-40 weeks is a long time with no scan which will probably your mind at rest. Movements is something to keep track of so call your midwife if concerned. My baby did have have reduced movements and they saved her life after monitoring her for several weeks, babies don't tend to just die, not unless there's sudden major injury to your body that's an awful thing for them to tell you. If movements reduce speak to your midwife not those idiots. It's worth being vigilant in pregnancy but you should enjoy it too. X

[mara55empree]

Wow ...just belive everything will be fine

[Miyu19]

Wow... They aren't very supportive are they. Make sure when you have the baby those people saying that aren't aware. It just sounds like they wish ill upon you and the baby. Not everyone will be happy for you at that time or now, this goes for everyone, so only let those that have supported you know if that.

You don't need their negative energy and ill wishes upon you both now and during your birth.

Anyways, babies have their lazy days. I use my fetoscope to help me figure out her position in there. If you get worried on a lazy day of hers, use it to listen for her heartbeat. It always puts a smile on my face hearing it and especially when I know she's also in a good position in there. Even gently moving the scope to find the heartbeat she'll start poking and prodding in there, it pretty cute to me :)

[ylopez93]

Always think positive.. my second pregnancy i was panicking alot like i wouldn't feel the baby and stuff but the doctor told me to lovk myself in the room without no one or noise and to pay attention and it work. So i felt much better. And like somebody else said they are just mad you are pregnant and both of you are healthy.

[thompsona0815]

Your baby is fine. She is healthy and happy and blessed to have you as her mom. Surround yourself with positivity ! Just ignore those who bring you down. My mom and aunt bring me down with their negativity towards my want for a natural birth, I just tell them not to talk about it or if they do be positive.

[Sinkipinki]

Those friends must be really jealous about u having baby! I would not listen to that comments they are giving to you :) you know baby is healthy, they cant see into u. It looks like they want to see u sad and worried, i dont understand them :S. Ignore that words. Stay positive and enjoy pregnancy! :) im gonna be mom first time too in may, enjoy :)

[bumpinbaby1995]

Change you're surroundings and listen to doctors not them