Flying solo to Dr appointments...

[AshleyNM]

Does anyone else go to their appointments alone? In order for my SO to come to mine he needs to take time off. Two problems with that.

1. His boss is a jet
2. We can't afford for him to take days off (he makes more money than I do)

I told him I would rather him take time off to come to see the ultrasound appointments instead. I feel like he SHOULD be there for those. This is our first child together. I guess when I go alone I just feel like I don't have a whole lot of support. Does anyone else feel that way?

[Kathy2015]

I go to my regular appointments alone all the time. Since I'm high risk, I get extra ultrasounds. Those appointments I try to schedule on his day off.  On the only one I couldn't he took the day off.

[JamieNVance]

If my hubby cant make it because of work my mom comes with me. He actually missed my 20 week anatomy scan which was dissapointing because it was so exciting. Little one was moving around so much. For my next scan I hope he can get off. Regarding regular appts idc if he goes or not. Its better for him to work since I am not working right now.

[isaknhenrysmama]

I much rather go without my husband. He gets very impatient waiting it's embarrassing.  I have to take my 13 month old with to every appointment and sometimes my 4.5 year old. My husband works out of town. He did come to the anatomy scan and that is it. The next time will be at birth.

[AshleyNM]

Since this is my first I get anxious going to appointments. I feel like I'm going to hear like bad news or something. I don't know why?

[kplumm]

My husband only works once every 4 days (firefighter). If he's off he goes with me, if he works then he doesn't go. It doesn't really bother me either way. I always make sure I schedule the ultrasouds on his days off though.

[kward2]

With our first he came to all of the appointments with me. I guess it was different. We were 18 and he didnt work then so he was always free. This time he's only been to the ultrasound with me. Otherwise he's always working or busy. I don't mind though. I liked having him with me the first time because everything was new to both of us.

[Mommys5blessings]

I understand exactly what you're saying. I felt the same way but unfortunately he didn't make it to that appt neither because his boss is a *** as well. But after being mad I had to realize that I would rather for him to miss these appts then to lose his job. So I just sucked it up and got over it. I know he really wants to be there but he can't. All I'm saying is when you have a good man there with good intentions some things are worth letting go because their are more dead beats that can give two s**** and you or the baby out here that wouldn't even care to get up to support you or your child.

[katie_1989]

I go to mine alone bc they r a total if 15 min. All i get done is weight blood pressure and babys heart beat. He came to the first ultrasound and he will be going to the next...plus my work is two min away from my dr and his is 25 min.

[AshleyNM]

I just hope he actually comes to the scan. Honestly I would be very upset if he didn't and I told him that. He has plenty of notice to let his boss know he needs the time off. There's no excuse for him to miss that.

[Mommys5blessings]

Im always alone at my Dr's appointments because of my husband's work schedule. ButiI can say at times I feel the same way you do. You just want that person there with you to share the happy moments or even the scary ones. But at least we know they're not there for a good reason.

[mummy_times_2]

I go alone simply because bringing along toddlers just doesn't work out and it's stressful more than anything, so I use my appointments for some alone time loo and it's really helped me bon with my baby this time as its just me alone whenever I go but in saying that my husband is always present at ultrasounds

[maryy_96]

I've been going alone throughout my whole pregnancy. He lives in another state so yeah, its not that bad but it would be nice if they were there (:

[a_miracle_in_me]

Thats tve story of my life. I go solo to my appointments it's our 1st too. I told him to come to the sonogram but he said we can't afford him missing work. But I finally convinced him to come along. I said you may miss everything else except labor lol. I would kill him if he missed that.

[Angeline722]

I always go alone except ultrasounds. I honestly prefer it that way. Maybe I'm controlling but I like to process everything on my own and then communicate to him. Plus I don't really think its necessary for him to be there every single time the doc needs to dig in my hoo-ha

[mommy2be0606]

I havent had to go alone yet but my husband has missed a couple them because of work. He works different hours and days so its impossible to schedule appointments around his work schedule so my mom or sis in law go with me but its not the same as having my husband there. I wish he could go to all of them but i understand why he cant.

[herb22]

My hubby came to my first two scans ive had 7 in total and that's it xx his boss can be a *** about letting him off work x

[mommalombardi]

I go to most of them alone. If it's a ultrasound he is definitely there. And sometimes if he can he goes with me to random ones.

[AshleyNM]

I don't expect or even want him at every appointment. He hasn't even been to one yet and I hope he follows through with coming to the anatomy scan next month. Our first ultrasound I went alone. My first my baby and my first time ever seeing it and I shared that experience with a stranger who wasn't even exactly the nicest person I have ever met lol.

[treasuretrollz]

I am sorry that you guys are going to your appointment alone. It's a special time and process and should be share with your partner. I am fortunate to have my hubby by my side in all my appointments. Good luck to you

[bump2015]

I generally go alone too. My husband likes come with when he can and we scheduled a couple important ones around his work schedule. But I kind of like to go without him. I feel more at ease asking the doctor the embarrassing  questions and such. Also if there is any (and thankfully there hasn't been) bad news I'll be able to process it myself before I'd have to tell him and explain and help him process it too.

[knufrio]

My hubby came to my first 3 ultrasounds and that's it. To me it wasn't a big deal. He was at the first appt where we found out for sure we were expecting, he came to the next one at 12 weeks, and then to the anatomy scan at 20. Those were the important visits and he took time off work for them. Other than that I see no need for him to be at every appointment.

[mrsprophet]

I have to go to mine alone. Well my 17 month old is with me but you get what I'm saying lol. My husband's in the military and we just moved so he's at a new duty station and can't go with me like he could with our first. It ***** but I've gotten use to it.

[AshleyNM]

See he is in work by 7am and doesn't get back until 430. We have our anatomy scan next month on the 15th and he said he would come. I have an appointment today at 4 and he said he will come straight from work to try and make it before I leave. I got to record the heart beat at my last appointment so he could hear it. I just get a little anxious before OB appointments.

[Chandlerhill]

I've gone to mine alone since my 16 week visit because my husband is on deployment  And I'm  32 weeks now