Ftm living with in-laws, help??

[siloe713]

I'm due this week and am worried about how this whole postpartum thing is going to happen. I love my in-laws, but I'm worried about a few things and any opinions or personal experiences would be much appreciated.  I know my father in law loves babies and I'm worried that I won't get the privacy I need. Everyone's been saying that you stop caring about being naked after you have a baby but I still feel like I don't want anyone with me while breastfeeding or seeing blood spots on my clothes. They also have made it clear that they don't do diaper changes, which is fine, but I don't see how it can be fair to turn a hungry or poopy baby to me and expect to get happy cuddles and nap time. They're very reasonable, so that can't be real life right?

[RapunzelLove]

Hi ! Ok so already at maternity try to avoid any visit for the 1st 24h as baby is very open to spiritual energies. So u don t want to have people that bring u stress :)
As for breastfeading just tell them ok it s time for me to feed baby could u step outside i d feel more confortable :)
I don t think they will really want to hold the baby at least tje first days. You just look at it in its maternity crib :)
Anyway express what u want and don t. It s not because ur parents learned u to be polite that u have to be all the time :) don t ever feel guilty of anything. Your life your rules :)

[carolind]

My in laws were good my mother in law helped me if I needed help and my sister in laws .when I was breastfeeding I just went to my room and they didn't bother me .

[hkjen]

A big baggy cardigan is a great way to cover up when nursing. But yeah, reality is they get the fun bits and don't have to deal with the poo.  That's why being a grandparent is better than being a mum!  Make sure your husband is doing his share of the changes though.

[lkaykirk]

Honestly it doesnt change. Breastfeeding for me was ok with my mom but not my dad or inlaws. And my inlaws changed after i had my first. They expected me to just hand him over and it was my first so i didnt want to. I wanted the snuggles and the nap time.

[molinacristina]

You will be just fine. Breastfeeding in front of ppl can at first be a little intimidating. Just cover up if it makes you feel better or ask for them to rescept your privacy when your in your room breastfeeding. As far as spotting on your clothes try to wear dark bottoms and make sure to change pads frequently at first the bleeding is heavy but it's not in most cases going to gush out. This is my 4th pregnancy and I still care about being naked in front of ppl even in front of my husband so that just depends on you. My dad (step) never had to live with a pregnant woman before and he had lots of "ground rules" about not changing or feeding baby but all that went out the window when baby came. Don't stress everything will fall into place.