Baby shower anxiety/rant

[Nduckie]

34 weeks, what was supposed to be a small gathering has turning into 30+ ppl. My grandmother decided to use my shower as a way to get her side of the family to come visit. Ppl are flying in from across the US.. my problem is that I have anxiety and am very exhausted. I know my gran just wanted to see her siblings since it's been years but she's telling my mom that it's pretty much my fault for inviting everyone. . My gran told me to send them invites and she is the one who was making calls  pushing her siblings to come. It's now a party, idk if we have room for so many ppl and idk how long I have to stay, not to be rude but my anxiety limits how long I can be doing stuff. Advice?

[kj_skibum]

Is there a quite room where this will be that you may retreat to so your BF can stay? If there is a spare bedroom I would make arrangement to use it while there. Tell your BF and gran that there should be no games with you as center of attention/on hot seat. Find out the schedule....time guests arrive, time to eat, time to open gifts etc. If there us game time then use that to go take a break. After eating you can claim upset stomach to go lay down or just hang in bathroom to meditate for 15 min. You can do this. Baby shower should be roughly a 2-3 hour event....let BF and Gran know that. Know schedule if event and retreat fir breaks during it. Arrange for someone from your side of family/friend to take you home and let BF stay and receive family blessing etc

[Nduckie]

Thanks for the advice, anxiety has gotten worse with pregnancy but I've stayed away from the meds. Think I'll just have to stay until I start feeling overwhelmed

[mw89]

* that is on them.

[mw89]

^im sorry but have you ever suffered from anxiety its not easy to sit back and relax in a room of people when you dont feel comfortable.
To the poster I have bad anxiety as well. The best I do in certain situations like that is to just stay until I can't take it anymore . Tell your bf that. You shouldn't have to go through stress like that especially while being pregnant.
When you can't anymore just tell people you really need to go home and rest if they dont understand that is on you. One thing I have learned through therapy is you dont have please everyone and ypu dont have to take on the world. Do you! Thats what os best for you and the baby. .
I hope that helps.

[momof3tobe2015]

Just sit back relax and enjoy your day , ppl shoukd understand your very tired.. I stressed over my shower of 30+ ppl in a small space but it worked out just fine and baby got spoiled .  I Wish you the best :-)

[Nduckie]

Honestly that might be a bit hard to do, my bf is putting more on me by saying they're all going for me. . I don't believe that at all but it still bothers me that he wants me to stay the whole time

[lindashalee]

Maybe do the shower part that revolves around you and the baby and then go home. Just tell everyone you're not feeling well.