Husband Advice

[Kiimberllly]

Im 35 weeks and 4 days with our first baby. Im in constant pain. My hips feel like they are being ripped off my body and I keep having contractions for multiple hours each day but they have remained irregular so far. I try not to complain about the pain since there isnt anything he can do to help it anyways, but he treats it like Im supposed to be able to do everything normally. Im supposed to rub and massage him every day when he gets home from work and at night until he falls asleep. Most of the time its not a big deal but after like 20 minutes of it Im just exhausted. But if I stop he gets irritated with me. I dont ask him for anything in return. And the few times he has massaged me, he only does for maybe 5 minutes and I dont want yo ask for longer cause I dont want to sound ungreatful since I barely get them anyways. How can I make him understand Im in alot of pain, and he doesnt have to do more for me but after I stop doing it for him I just need to be able to relax, not worry about him getting upset with me.

[ruchi3399]

You really need to first understand that u r pregnant and have responsibility of ur infant first and den ur darling hubby. Pls make sure that u take gud care of urslf rather pampering him...

[maggie574]

You need to tell him what you're feeling...it's great to not complain but unless you let him know what you feeling, he's going to assume everything is just fine continuing the way it has been! I think even the most aware of men will have trouble really getting it, if we don't talk about what's going on. Try to think of it as explaining facts, not complaining. If you hurt, you hurt...fact.

[aicnov14]

I'm working still and I have like 25 days left, I say and it shows I'm in a lot of pain when I come home at night after a nine hour shift and I haven't been touched in weeks, seriously like two months he has not tried to massage me, rub me, nothing. I will massage him even when I'm dog tired, I try to please him intimately, in hopes he will reciprocate but nope.

[kcanario]

Yea u should tell him Massage me first then ill massage u... men don't understand how it is to be pregnant at all. Tell him how u feel. Explain to him the changes ur body is undergoing. Good luck!!!

[lilbaby01]

Ohhh noo dats not right hes acting as if hes the one prego he should understand u even though hes working n getn tired bt ur body is carry another life u need to have a talk to him about it. My hubby massages my foot n back weneva I ask him too n afterwards I give him a massage maybe u should try that bcoz at 1st my hubby used to be too tired to massage me but I tried it this way n it works u try it too

[lovebeingpreg]

Tell him that your in a lot of pain. I mean seriously your about to give birth and your the one that messages him? He should be the one that is rubbing your back and your feet!!!

[December2014]

I feel you! Sounds just like my husband. But it's not us being ungrateful it's them not thinking being pregnant is hard and painful at times. Idk like they think we can still do anything but we pretend like we cant. That's how I feel with my husband and that's what I know.