Husband doesn't care much.. Anyone else in the we boat?

[fagi4ka]

This is my second pregnancy, I'm almost at the end - 35 weeks already.. I'm staying home with our daughter who is 16 months old.
My husband has his own business, so he works all the time. No days off, leaves early in the morning and comes home at 9-10pm.
I know its tough on him, but at the same time he finds time to go out for drinks after work here and there or do some other things. I just feel like he doesn't care about me or the family at all. Being pregnant, I feel so vulnerable. I just wish he did something, like cook dinner, get me skmething i like, massage my legs, make me a bath, something small you know just to show that he cares.
Instead, he comes home, watches TV or stays on his phone writing emails and goes to bed. We don't even talk much any more. He said he loves me but I just don't see it.
Maybe I'm hormonal, don't know.. Anyone else feels the same way?

[gingerlady0805]

You should tell him how you feel. He should talk with you, you tell him wich pregnancy simptoms you have. He should at least kiss you and hug you occasionaly. We all need more love while beeing pregnant.

[bia_tix]

Hi,
Your being hormonal. But your husband should understand that and be extra caring with you it's both your babe.  I m just on ny first weeks and mibe kedps bringing home food that I cannot eat, so you are not alone, no partner us perfect, but neither are we. Maybe you could try to share how you feel,even if he doesn't change it might make you feel better. It did for me. Good luck!

[nicole22017]

I'm sure he does care but you need to tell him how you feel.  Be prepared to tell him what you need, date night? Time to yourself?  Etc.  Men have a different way of preparing for a baby.  He might see it as his time now to get work ready for a "down" time where sleep/time will be comprimised by the joy of a new life.  Show him while he has down time like going out, you need that too.  

[zdravi]

This is my first pregnancy. My husband has own business too. He comes at home at 2 am. But we are all day at home alone and we think just about that. If we have work too we will do the same. This is normall i think.