Husband on phone..

[deathblossom13]

So my husband has been on hes phone, tablet or computer all day and night, while he pees, while we're eating and now hes getting mad and just leaving the room with hes phone. I said something about it and gets mad and saids I'm treating him like s*** just because I mention it. Has any of you experience something like this? And what did you do about it?

[RockRose]

deathblossom,  you are right to be concerned about this.  Tech gadget addictions are literally addictions - his brain has reorganized itself to receive rewards (endorphins) only when he is on one of these things.   If you study brain psychology and addictions - this is the worst kind - because it has "variable rate of returns".  That is,  he can't predict when he will get a communication back,  so he's always checking checking checking checking checking hoping there will be a reward message.  He's literally like an experimental  rat at the feeder bar pressing pressing pressing pressing pressing pressing pressing the bar hoping that is the magic press that gives him the treat.   If you are interested in this science,  google Skinner Rats variable rate of reward,  and your guy is doing this.  He's addicted to the messaging.  

I think you should offer him something REALLY sweet (don't want to be vulgar and say what it might be) if he will put those devises in a drawer for one hour.  See which one he chooses.  My guess is,  he won't put this stuff away for an hour.

Best wishes - this is so hard.    

[deathblossom13]

Honestly is not mostly about me worrying about him cheating or talking with other girls, Is because it really annoyed me when you're trying to talk to someone and their face is always on the phone. He's not trying to hide anything. I could go through hes phone anytime I want.

[MommyToBe42015]

Wow. Women not that I'm being mean but trust. A relationship is nothing without it. My boyfriend is on his all the time but I don't complain in fact it's nice to not hear him fuss. Come on as long as a man is quiet he ain't fussing about anything.

[honkaaa]

My husband is always on his phone,  its either business partners, or hunting forums or youtube, we used to fight about it, i would try to tell him in different ways, nothinh helped, he kept saying its my pregnancy hormones!  But now i just do the same whenever he wants my attention i just grab my phone and act the same as he does! So finally he realized what I'm trying to tell him! Now he's only on his phone if its business related! Maybe you should try that too!

[AmyPrieto]

My bf doesn't have his phone on him all the time. When he showers he will leave it in the room to charge or in Hus pants pocket. I Look through his phone sometimes I just find a lot of car part sites. Sometimes he will be on it for hours looking at car stuff. I find it annoying but I rather him look at that than other things on the internet.. I used to have a bf that would have a password that he never told me && he would always be on his phone he took it everywhere.. I then one day seen it was unlocked I quickly looked thru it && seen over 10 conversations with other girls talking abt sex.. I would be cautious.. Usually when people hide things they know they are doing something bad.

[jen0221]

Maybe it has to do with how you mention it. I would start by saying ' it hurts my feelings when you ____ because I feel ______. Example: it hurts my feelings when you play on your phone all the time because I feel like you don't want to spend any time with me. Then come up with some things that could be a solution. I like others' ideas about getting him more involved with things like dinner, cleaning, etc or going for a walk together. You could also try starting a conversation before he gets on his phone and see if that will keep him occupied. I agree also that if he is hiding his phone from you, likely he is hiding something.

[Madisonsmom1]

When my bf isn't watching utube in his tablet, he's playing games on his phone. I figured out that as long as I keep him busy he spends less time on his devices and more time with me and our daughter. I ask him to do things like help with dinner or make up a project attends the house or sometimes just have a long conversation with him. He always pauses his electronics and gives he his attn when I do things like that.

[ellarose3]

I hate to say this but I came from a relationship like that and it's usually another woman. My husband has no password on hos phone and always wants me to look at it. Ask to see his phone if he says no odds are he is hiding something.

[ftmat29]

My bf is bad for this too but sometimes so am I.  I find the best way to get him to put his phone away is to get him involved in something interactive.  Sitting on the couch watching TV is not enough to occupy people's minds these days. I'll usually bust out a game of cards or we'll go for a walk, anything that's more stimulating!

[Lacii15]

My fiance is always on his phone, usually texting his friend or watching hunting or truck videos. I never complain about it though because he has done it since we met and I've learned complaining gets me nowhere. But he's nice when I ask him about it and he tells me who he's talking to. And he has no problem letting me use his phone and see his messages so I don't mind it much. So if your husband is being a butt about it, maybe he's hiding something... Or maybe he's just really stressed out about the changes in life and is distracting himself. I don't know, definitely find out though.

[ecilef]

My partner is so like this. When i was on my first trimester i easily go awake by small noises or movements and i always see him playing til midnight almost 4am to 5am. I got angry because he cant help me in the morning cos he was still sleeping. I noticed that the more i tell him not to play or to limit using his phone the more he'll play. So i did what he does to me. Instead of wasting my time telling him that he is so addicted in using his phone i just ignored him and find my own way to make my self busy or occupied. I watch videos in youtube about giving birth, how to breastfeed baby etc. I also plat games and read every post on this app. I must say that it's effective cos he's now the one telling me that i spend more time on phone rather than talking to him(:

[deathblossom13]

I know what's hes doing, I mean I'm allow to see it. Hes always reading forums, 9 gag, Youtube even porn. Which I don't mind. It only bugs me so much that hes always on it. And well even tho I know what hes doing, im still insecure about it. I think it has to do more with the fact that I'm pregnant. I know before I wouldn't really care.

[Babii_Doll_1]

I can sit there and watch my bf on his he's usually talking to family who is away or friends or on instagram YouTube whatever he's on it it's an addiction

[Babii_Doll_1]

OMG you are not alone. My boyfriend is the same way. He has his iPhone glued to his hand, he even falls asleep with it.. I get so mad and waste so much energy he says "I'm not in jail" he shows me he loves me but the one thing I ask he doesn't do and that's give the phone a rest... He has been better with it at night but when ever we are home during the day together he's on it.


Idk what to do either it's the only thing we fight over seriously I love him but he's as bad as a 12 year old girl

[lovely9810]

Sound like he whatever is on his phone and computer got his attention...

[igoraroyal]

Wats he's reason for being on it?