I don't even know anymore????

[iseverynametaken]

17w with baby #3. Last night my husband got a fb message and I picked up his phone. He grabbed it out of my hand like a bomb. But finally confessed thar it was a woman he had been "talking" to. But he says nothing has ever happened. I don't trust him one bit. He's cheated before. I have one good friend and she keeps telling me to leave. But I don't have anywhere to go. I want to pack up my kids and run but to where? Should I stay? Or should I go?

[tdj0812]

It's so easy for people to tell you to leave your husband but we all know it's easier said than done. Yes your husband is wrong for talking to another woman and you need to talk to him and let him know it's unacceptable and how you feel. You all are living with in-laws so maybe he is using his social media as an outlet like you are doing on here with us to escape from the real world. If you feel you all can work through this and he won't do it again I say work it out. If not and you are really fed up, go to your local dfacs office and get info about section 8 and low income housing. Also at 17w you are still early in your pregnancy to find maybe a part time job if your other 2 are school age.

[ABCDjE]

This is a hard thing to be going through right now!!! If he cheated before then they ate probably doing more than just talking!! You said that your friend is telling you to leave is there any way u could stay with her until you figure something out? It is better to leave than to put the kids in the position to c you two fighting and not happy...been there!! But how old are your children? Does his parents no? Maby they can give you a different room to stay in until its all figured out! Good luck n sorry you have to ho through this!!!

[RockRose]

I just read your post that you live with his parents.

Does he have a job?  I can't believe he's working on baby #3 and still living under Daddy's roof.  Does he have money to support himself and give you child support? If he's not making enough money even to give you decent child support this might be hard.

[RockRose]

Have you seen their exchanges on facebook to determine if he's really just "talking" to her?  It is suspicious that he acted so oddly when you were trying to read it.  

You don't have to leave right now.  Since you're pregnant and have 2 kids,  there's no point in yanking everyone up to go live in a shelter because he's been flirting with someone else.  Or having sex,  who knows.

Does he want a divorce?  

[jsanchez25]

You need to talk to him be straight up if you are in a sticky situation look for a way to get into a women's shelter they can help with divorce and will definitely help you through your pregnancy until you can get on your feet.

[bnl0725]

When your able to get away from him because he will continue to do this to you.

[iseverynametaken]

I can't even say I'm angry. I have no emotion towards him now.

[emgem256]

Ugh. So sorry.

[iseverynametaken]

I live with his parents. I have called everyone and every source. I don't know what to do.

[alid32]

First of all -you go nowhere. If you don't want to be with him he can leave and pay you child support. No judge would have you be the one to leave.

[bump2015]

There are women's shelters. If you don't want to be in the relationship, get out. You'll find a way. Just ask around if there are any local programs or charities that help women with children. You could ask your good friend to put you and the kids up until you get on your feet too. Or tell him you want a divorce and ask him to leave for the sake of
his children, so you don't have to turn their entire world upside down.

[iseverynametaken]

O don't have anyone. My mother left when I was 16 and my father passed 4 years ago.  No one will takeus.

[lkaykirk]

Go to your parents, a friends, any where. My mom's neighbors the guy has cheated so many times and she still takes him back. It's so sad. Leave for your kids.