Should i be mad?(long sorry)

[yesenia5]

Not sure if it just my hormones so plz b honest and tell me.  So it's midnight and this isn't the first time this has happened my bf is supportive can b sweet but occasionally an *******. He likes to drink often and doesn't know when enough is enough he won't tell unless I ask where he's at and usually sounds like lil bs mixed w a little truth and won't tell me when he's coming home he's w friends ( that I don't like much honestly)  I don't wanna be that insecure girl that nags or doesn't let him go w his friends but am I wrong for being mad. Do you ladies let your men go out often and do u trust them when they do? I can't help but think bad and sad cuz I've never had felt like I'm not enough and when he does this that's the exact feeling I get.. sounds pathetic but I just hate it already

[yesenia5]

Yes that's how I feel crappy and Moody when I'm out with him so I don't even wanna go half the time. He does try alot I admit I'm alo t to put up with so I stayed up waiting for him to come hm round 4am trying to make sense to a drunk is useless he seems very happy usually about her coming even throwing me baby shower but can't help but think it'll be like this when she's here too but then i definitely won't b stayin nothing good is happening at 4am when your suppose to be home now I'm at work with 2 hrs of sleep trying not to b mad

[bubbleswe13]

Try talking to him my bf was having peoplr over drinkinh like every weekend with our work schedules thats all we get together and ot ***** having to sit and watch all his friends and himself drimk being the only sober one and having nobody really aknowledge u im not big on drinking but still not fun to feel left out but i talked to him and hes quit until  im ok with it again like after the baby gets here and we can get a sitter amd both enjoy friends and a few drinks  i. Felt bad asking it of him but i  didnt want to habe to feel moody and crappie about it all the time it just leads to more problems. But I've also got a guy that does his best to make sure im always happy not many out there like that but tru to make him see from your point of view and how u feel good ,luck,!

[Kiraajayynee]

That's exactly how I fee, I never had a father so I hope my husband gives our son all his love and attention.
It's okay to cry, god have you tears for a reason I do it all the time it hurts but it's good to cry and let it out.  If you ever need someone to talk to just private msge me. Head up and I'm sure your little girl will bring a lot of happiness and joy to you and your partner xx

[yesenia5]

Thanks for listening to my long vent ladies and your input I have to to stop it before it becomes a problem when she's here better to stop it now then being mad often

[yesenia5]

I've left many times already but being pregnant makes it worse now he always gets me to come back just cuz it isn't just me now I cry writing this cuz I do everything on my own for as I can remember but giving her the dad I didn't have is what hurts most that I knw she'll be missin if I do leave.  I talk but get no where just trying for a lil while then happens again Ive even tried going out w him it's just too much I end up mad and dealin w a drunk all night. He takes advantage way too much just don't knw how else to make a point. I just called and makes it sound exactly like I'm in the wrong Cuz he works.!  I work too!! I'm tired and lonely especially now I have no family here just him!

[Kiraajayynee]

Your not wrong, it's completely normal to feel like that because i would feel the same way sweetie. My husband and I would go out all the time before I was pregnant and now that I am if he wants time to himself he goes to the pub which is literally right on the corner near our house and then comes home. Though he has had a bad past with girls and been in trouble with the law so now I'm pregnant he will take me to dinner and he will play poker and we will come home. This is only because I spoke to him about going out, drinking ridiculous amounts. They need to be responsible and realise the effect if has on us. So feeling the way you do is normal and your definatly not wrong.

[bermudez19]

I'm sorry you feel that way no I wouldn't say that hormonal you have every right to be upset it would Def bug me if my man was out drinking while I'm prego  I get you don't want be that girlfriend but you should talk things out with him let him see things from your perspective  

[MoniBxx]

I trust my bf completely I know he would never do any thing but we fight every Saturday when he drinks I get so annoyed and jealous because we use to love going out together but now that I can't I don't see why he should be aloud to

[Mommyoftwo_2015]

Your not wrong but you should definitely talk to your bday about it. The last thing you want is to be one of those moms that stays at home with the kids and the dad is always out which eventually leads to problems, cheating,  and being unhappy. From what your saying this is the beginning the drinking and going out and you should put a stop to it. Maybe 2-3 times a month is ok for him to go out with guy friends which you should do too with him or with your girlfriends just dont let him take advantage of your kindness. Good luck and God bless

[abcqueen86]

Same boat. Hormones definitely make it so much worse. It took my awhile to get that guys get scared and they either run or distance themselves in a lot of cases.  My boyfriend went out for nights at a time and my nagging only made him do it more. Now i just remind myself that if he cant handle this, then fine. I will do it alone. Hoping he shapes up when shes born but i dont count on it  and i know ill be okay either way.