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I need advise pregnant & alone
Hello, I just turned 22 weeks yesterday. Doctor's think my unborn baby can have down syndome I didn't want further testing I'm praying everything will be okay I will see when baby is born I am up to take care of my baby no matter what. 3 weeks ago I got the call from Dr telling me about the genetic testing, I then called my bf (he lives 2 hours away due to work) I asked him I wanted him here to go with me to the doctor's office I didnt want to go alone. He said he wasn't going to take a day off to go with me because he needed to save his days off for work, it broke my heart because I've never demanded he goes to the Dr with me. We fought for the days remaining till my appointment and he never showed up for that important date. Later that day he broke up with me and said we can be friends and he's here for me and that he wants to be in the delivery room he left me when I most needed of his support. Is it selfish of me for not wanting him at the delivery room? He doesn't call me to ask how I am doing or doctor's visits he knows I'm currently not working due to being sick and doesn't even help with money which isn't even a lot I asked if he can order me a pizza and have it delivered to my house and he said I don't have $ to spend on pizza or anything else, he said I just spent 270 at wal mart. Is this me looking at things in a crazy way because I'm pregnant? Or I'm I right not to want him there?
Thank you all of your advice:) I been okay I haven't talked to him in a few days I know I can do this alone, I've done it alone before so just the diffrence this time is I know what to expect:) last I talked to him he said I was acting like a child because I didn't want him at the hospital when I deliver but right now I can care less about what he thinks he left me when I need of him I need his mind words and hugs but it's okay I have my family which is more then enough for me:)
As far as the worry about if you're child will have down syndrome. They get those tests wrong sometimes. Don't let it bother you. And if you have a little angel who is born with it, you will still love that baby just the same. I work with the disabled. I'm 100% convinced that God put down syndrome people on this earth to counter balance all the horrid people on earth. I've never met a downs person that you didn't want to immediately love! Always happy, and so full of joy! You can see that they are just full to the seams with joy! So whichever way this turns out, you will have a little bundle of joy! Congratulations!
I completely understand how you feel had a similar situation but in my case my boyfriend was there. You are not wrong and you are not crazy just my opinion it seems as if he just doesn't care about you or the baby buying you pizza is something so minor he's not even willing to do that.He also broke up with you when you needed him most which is him showing he is trying to eliminate himself out the situation as much as he can. If I was you I would just try to stay stress free even though it may be hard just have faith and believe in the well being of your baby and do not force him to be there for you or be in your life or the child's you are strong and can do it on your own it may seem hard because when we are pregnant we are emotional and you may feel lonely but forget him it should hurt you more that he is not there for the baby and with that being said he doesn't deserve you. Love you or your baby. You are in my prayers
I'm not sure about your two questions - "Is this me looking at things in a crazy way because I'm pregnant? Or I'm I right not to want him there?"
I think you're putting too much weight on whether he attends the birth or not. In the big picture, that's not all that important.
The point is, at this point, he's not at all attached to you or the baby, and he refuses to do even the tiniest thing - order you a pizza - that he doesn't want to do. It may be because he's worried about the health of the baby and may feel differently if the baby isn't born with Downs Syndrome.
Right now, he's given you feedback. He's not willing to do ANYTHING at all for you.
And that's a bigger thing than whether he should be allowed into the delivery room. At this point I think you need to begin to get your ducks in a row to sue him for child support.
I think you're putting too much weight on whether he attends the birth or not. In the big picture, that's not all that important.
The point is, at this point, he's not at all attached to you or the baby, and he refuses to do even the tiniest thing - order you a pizza - that he doesn't want to do. It may be because he's worried about the health of the baby and may feel differently if the baby isn't born with Downs Syndrome.
Right now, he's given you feedback. He's not willing to do ANYTHING at all for you.
And that's a bigger thing than whether he should be allowed into the delivery room. At this point I think you need to begin to get your ducks in a row to sue him for child support.
I'm so sorry to hear that, I'm going through the exact same thing. You are not crazy I assure you. My boyfriend decided to start seeing someone else when I was 28 weeks pregnant and went to visit family...we still lived together! The baby will not have his last name or the name he wanted for her. We are the ones growing and nurturing the baby while the men get to have fun and not help buy a thing? I don't think so. He doesn't want to be there but he wants the perks...screw that girl, you do you! He has no problem doing him.
Type: love you and your baby 1st
The down syndrome test is wrong 80% of the time and further testing is dangerous to the baby . You dont need a man who isnt supportive while your pregnant . you deserve to get lots of love and attention. My fiance spoils me with compliments and reads to my belly at night. There are good guys out there I promise it just doesnt seem like hes the one for you. If he really left because of the possitive down syndrome results , that says alot about him as a person. Unconditionally loving your child is the first step in being a parent. Im pretty sure you just got a false possitive though hun.
Follow your gut
In my opinion your baby is still ur baby no matter if they think it could have down syndrome
My god daughter was thought to have down syndrome and they were very wrong. No matter what it is still your child and you won't love it any different.
As far as the donor goes
Sweets been there done that. Don't need the stress. I went my first pregnancy alone scared put on bed rest living in my disabled parents basement. The dad was in prison. I honestly wish he would have stayed. Except I wouldn't be having my second daughter. So it's hard to say that also
But he's not here for this baby either.
Sad to say it took me getting pregnant again to open my eyes and see. I can be just as good as a daddy as I am a mommy.
The baby doesn't need a step in parent.
In my opinion your baby is still ur baby no matter if they think it could have down syndrome
My god daughter was thought to have down syndrome and they were very wrong. No matter what it is still your child and you won't love it any different.
As far as the donor goes
Sweets been there done that. Don't need the stress. I went my first pregnancy alone scared put on bed rest living in my disabled parents basement. The dad was in prison. I honestly wish he would have stayed. Except I wouldn't be having my second daughter. So it's hard to say that also
But he's not here for this baby either.
Sad to say it took me getting pregnant again to open my eyes and see. I can be just as good as a daddy as I am a mommy.
The baby doesn't need a step in parent.
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