Important discussion

[Sxl0072412]

Okay girls. So I'm 20wks expecting a boy due feb 2016. I have a girl who will be 2 in Dec. I am 26 years old currently financially unstable but getting by.
I am about to finish my teachers certificate (for sure). I will be eligible to officially become a teacher Aug 2016. So I will have a career & my bf will also. We will then be financially secure & get a house. God willing these plans all fall through.

My discussion is this; should I tie my tubes?
The discussion part is not necessarily the procedure but the decision to stop having kids all together?
I originally always wanted 4-6 kids I wanted a big family, now that I will have two kids with the goals of getting a house/family cars/family trips etc I am thinking well will I be able to afford more kids? I could comfortable provide/spoil 2 kids & enjoy life comfortably.

Note this my daughter & son have everything they need. We were blessed with an overload of gifts for both so as far as clothes blankets diapers bottles etc the babies have everything. But once they get older it will be expensive, clothes, cars, college, airplane tickets sports extra curricular activities...
Another side note I REALLY strongly wanted a sister for my daughter. So I am considering trying for one more child. Then I would have 3 kids under 3, could I handle that?

I also had said I would have these two kids wait 4 years and then have 2 more. Now I'm thinking I don't want to do that. Here's why. I don't want to start over. Once the older kids are in school/extra curriculars I want to give them all the attention and support they deserve and not be busy starting over with another baby. Also (don't think of me as selfish) if I wait to have more kids down the line I will be 50+ by the time they graduate. IF we stop having kids now we will be 40 when they graduate & could enjoy our marriage & travel.


Sorry this is so long it could be my hormones but it's a big deal. I need to decide to A. Pop out one more baby then tie my tubes or B. Tie my tubes and be done.
Anybody understand where I'm coming from?
When did you decide to stop having kids?
How many do you want to have?

[Sxl0072412]

Thank you ladies y'all are right, I will end up trying birth control for at least a year or two & then decide what the next step is. Thank y'all I was really over the top freaking out last night lol I can laughed it off now for the moment I felt a bit calmer waking up to read this. I definetly don't want to tie them and then regret it later on down the road!

[collinsmumma]

I'd say wait until you are 100% positive you don't want any more kids. It seems as though, you very much might want another baby. Wait a year or two and if by then you don't feel you want another, get them tied.

[shells4babies]

Being so undecided about it I would wait. It's a huge decision not easy to come back from. I would use birth control until you come to a point you know for sure you are done. Otherwise if you change your mind after the procedure is really hard and expensive to undue.

[mum2b260216]

What about using another birth control for a few years and see how it goes? If you decide on another baby in a few years, it will not be a problem. If you decide against, its not too late to have them tied then.