I'm pregnant with my 3rd son and I've had a shower each time
My sister had one for the both of her boys and I had one for my boy.
I'll probably have what they call a "sprinkle" if I have another boy since I have all the clothes left over from my first son (he's only 4 months and am pregnant aagain) and if I'm having girl have a baby shower. I don't think its rude at all.
I am having a baby shower for my 2nd. My son and baby girl will be almost 5 yrs apart. Its fine....have one
I had a small one for my second (I just asked people that if they wanted to bring a gift, to bring a frozen meal or something girly - as my first was a boy). It was pretty low key and I just invited close friends and family :)
With baby #2 I had a welcome home party for my son. It helped to keep from people just showing up because they knew when to stop by to see our new baby. Maybe have one of those so some people don't get offended, but there probably will be at least one who does.
It's not rude. You do you momma, no one's good enough to judge.
The other thing is my mom had three girls and she had multiple showers for all of us because different people wanted to throw them for her..
If that doesn't help them The other way she said was every kid wants to look at baby pictures and they might feel not special or feel left out if one sibling had a shower but the others didn't.
I think if it's two different genders it's okay to do full out babyshower.
I had a girl first and now I believe I'm having a boy(not sure yet) so I already know I'll have a shower, but if for any reason I have a girl then I'll just have either a diaper party (since I have mostly everything I need for a girl already) or I even considered having a welcome home bbq where people can meet her after she's here.
Im having 3...not necessarily because inwant to but a lot of people want to throw me one..so I would definitely not call it selfish
My sister in law had one for each of her children, she has three. The second and third she called a sprinkle instead of a shower
I had two because my first was a boy and second was a girl. After both genders I didn't have one for my 3rd and won't for this one either. Your choice though, if you want one do one.
A lot of people have showers now for however many children that they have. The one and done thing is more in the past. If you want another one then do it. Personally I'm only having the one shower that I had and I plan on having more children.