Listen Up !!! Rant .

[MomOf1ExpectingAnother]

Why do some people think that being unmarried & getting pregnant is such a bad darn thing??? Being married means nothing nowadays in this world most of us get married based off of our feelings at the moment . Or if we see someone else married , oh it's time to tie the knot! I'm most definitely not knocking anyones marriage but come on now most people that are married have to put up with more sh!t than a little bit! I hate when people come out the mouth wrong about someone getting pregnant before marriage , lets not say "i've seen married couples that have gotten pregnant before the wedding" oh, so you're REALLY clearly not living by the book . Smh

[anj3li3]

Hahahah that is awesome your post exactly what I think about weddings or marriage! But I am married though.

I made sure my wedding was under $200 and 12people invited.

We had to get married for legal purpose lol if not me and my husband could care less because we are in love and happy.

I am catholic and brought up by strict religious parents lol

Some people are just self centered and self rightous or think they are right because of their faith. I laugh secretly at them.. most of these people are sad and forced to stay in their unhappy relationship because of faith or religion.

[wren09]

It just makes me laugh. I couldnt care less. Weddings are a huge hassle to organize and are super expensive I would rather spend the money on our house or a nice vacay. Half the people get divorced anyways! Our baby was unplanned and people asked me if we were going to get married before the baby came and I was always like pfft is this the 1950s? ? Nooo lol! And I'll be damned if I can't drink more then 1 glass of wine on ny wedding day!! :)

[chantel_314]

mrslollyrupert@ I don't think most people "choose"to go through this alone, things happen ya know

[MissJessGolden]

Not only that but for some reason people tend the think that not being married has everything to do with your parenting skills. There are people who feel marriage is just a piece of paper and dont want to get married. Marriage and pregnancy are two different things and one does not affect the other.

[MrsLollyRupert]

I don't think everyone intentionally put down people who aren't married. Marriage DOES in fact mean something if you regard as being of value. Not everyone values their marriage,  but beibg single will always be just that. I personally don't understand how some women willingly put themselves in the position to get pregnant without being married or in a committed relationship.  Being a single parent is hard work. I watched my mother do it TWICE before she actually got married.  I decided I would be married when I decided to have a child. Now I'm 28 and married.  We are currently pregnant and I always stop and wonder why some people choose to go through this alone.  For me, it's not about looking down on people; it's more about common sense.

[TheShe]

I do Have religious upbringing, so naturally I find it important to have the marriage and family. It doesn't always happen that way of course.I didn't feelinclined to marry my daughters father. In fact, I wasted three years trying to wait on him to grow up so we could be a family for the sake of our daughter. I was eighteen and a college freshman when I got pregnant. After those three years went by I met someone unexpectedly. We've been together for four years now and I'm pregnant again. When we met I told him I didn't want anymore children until I was married. Well, I got the ring, But we haven't walked down the aisle yet. And I couldn't be happier. I still wish that thing had gone a little differently, But everyone has their own choices. Some choose to marry and others don't. But just because you're married before you have children doesn't mean that you're doing everything else "right." Were told were saved by grace. Not by our works. So as long as my baby comes into this world healthy with two loving parents I'll be just fine.

[wiction]

Nope, I totally do not have a problem with that since I am unwed myself. What I do find irksome is women who bring children into the world to live of the state. Or have a toxic unstable relationship with the father. A child deserves both a stable home and parents who can set a good example.

[BearHunterMomma27]

I had a 2 yr old by a ex and never believed in marriage mainly bc I don't believe in divorce but I started dating.my hubby who I was friends.w for over 8 years (he even came to my first baby shower) and we knew right away we were going to be together forever. So within 2,months we got pregnant on purpose. And got married that Halloween when I was about 4 months big belly and all :-). We didn't care bc it was what we wanted. So EF what people say let them be negative. This is why I got rid of so many "friends" who are they to judge me when I'm making myself happy. I'm happily married with a 4 yr old  almost 2, yr old and final peanut due.in January :-).  Its the negative people that make.me want.to be better prove them all wrong.  So EF them all :-) make yourself happy bc a happy mommy means happy kids!!!

[nikkimamaofthree]

I got engaged, found out I was pregnant, so sped up the wedding. I don't look down on people who don't get married and i have a wonderful marriage. I think to each their own. When my little sister was pregnant, she talked about getting married and I talked her out of it just because they argued all day.

[nikkimamaofthree]

I got engaged, found out I was pregnant, so sped up the wedding. I don't look down on people who don't get married and i have a wonderful marriage. I think to each their own. When my little sister was pregnant, she talked about getting married and I talked her out of it just because they argued all day.

[meli124]

i have three kids and one on the way and I'm not married its not like back then my dad passed away a week after i gave birth last year him and my mom were together for 27 years you don't see or hear that anymore i always ask why but for now I'm happy being a single mom tough alone of course but looking at them everyday puts the only smile on my face

[MomOf1ExpectingAnother]

@Oct3014 ; Omg , you're sooo right! It's always the older people that try & bring you down . Lol! They're just bitter that's all . Most of them were having children at the age of 13 but the world has forgotten & forgived them .

[MomOf1ExpectingAnother]

Congrats on your marriage sweety(: You probably did what was right for you & YOUR family. Don't let anyone bring down your happiness, marriage is a beautiful thing when it's real(: I don't knock anyone that's married because sometimes it takes a lot to stay in them & you have to always remember to maintain a pure and healthy relationship with your family hun .

[oct3014]

I agree ppl do look down at those who are not married and having children and sometimes it's ppl who are very religious or "old fashion" but in those situations you just have to ignore it especially if they come off rude. I know a few ppl who will throw the bible at me for how I'm living but at the end of the day I dnt have to answer to them for how I'm living plus everyone has a past so no one really has a right to judge!

[Nayassa]

Well I understand what your saying I'm a ftm I'm 18 I'll b 19 the 29 of next month and I just got married June 5 and it was before I got married and I wasn't even a virgin I really understand were ur coming from ppl should never judges but I did marryy husband not because I got pregnant by because I love himand my family awas sooo against thy felt I was wayyy to young for marriage but I did it before I love him and I'm happy everyone could kick rocks for all I cared do what makes u happy not just about marriages but everything always!

[MomOf1ExpectingAnother]

You know speaking of "You never know someone's story" , I always think of those girls that were raped by their uncle , dad , or even a brother. How heartless & cold that must be ? & the pain you'd have to walk around with knowing your own family did that to you... you actually have to walk around pregnant with your siblings child for 9 whole months.

[wife_and_mama2014]

Since I was a little girl, I always wanted to find my man, date him, marry him, then have babies. NOT for religious reasons or because I think that's the only appropriate order! But because that's my personal preference. Honestly I'm kind of surprised it actually happened that way! Haha. I'm glad though. BUT, I would never judge someone for getting pregnant and not being married. I don't see that as any kind of big deal. I think you should be in love with the man you have a baby with, because that obviously makes things MUCH easier and every child deserves both parents around. Ones who love each other. But everyone has their own preferences, their own story. I would never judge someone for that. It's not right.

[MomOf1ExpectingAnother]

That's true , but for some reason it's always going to be that ONE person that does it . It's rediculous!

[bearl]

People shoudntbjudge cos u have no idea to walk in sam1s shoes

[bearl]

People shoudntbjudge cos u have no idea to walk in sam1s shoes