Mabey just paranoid

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So I found out about a month ago my boyfriend has previously cheated on me and gave me an std... WHILE I'M PREGNATE but I forgave him and trying to work through things. But now I think he is still cheatinG I just don't know if I'm just paranoid or not. He works night shiFt 4-11 but doesn't usually come home till around 1245 or 130. Varies every night. Well he used to ride his bike to work but We moved a little farther away so he started getting rides... Then one day he came home and was driving a "coworkers" car but he told me it was a female's that he worked with. I know its petty but what women is gonna let u drive her car and not be in A relationship or messing with you some kinda way.. Well today he had to leave for work So when he walked out the door I went behind him to lock it. I watched him proceed to walk down the hill to the main road and he was walking like he was walking to work.. The. He turned around and wat do u know.. The same car he has been driving pulled up and he turned around and got in... Now... I could just be paranoid but idk... I can't get his phone to look through it cause he makes sure its attached to him... But should I trust him... He hasn't been staying home he has been leaving and staying out late.. He hasn't been like this before about 2 weeks ago when I found out he had cheated.. Ugghh I just don't wana have this baby and find out afterwards he been cheatinG this whole time.. What do i do!!!!!!

AshMonster1988 · Answer

From the sounds of it, i dont think you will leave him even if you find out thats hes cheating. In your previous comment you already had excuses for his behavior and pointing the finger at youself. In reality, he is the one in the wrong. He is lying to you about someone giving him a ride to work and it seems like multiple times he has lied. He has already cheated and you took him back. In a mans mind once he can get away with something like that, he is going to think oh she aint going no where. I can do what ever and she will be right here waiting on me. Dont be that girl. Be independent girl. Do not let a man treat you like that. The first signs of him being dishonest you kinda already know he aint worth it. He cheated on you and didnt care enough about you or the baby to at least protect himself. He is already a selfish person. My best advice is to leave and tell him you need some space from him. He obviously does not have your best interest at heart. Leave now because its only going to get worse. Good luck and pray for stregnth. Be Strong and know youre not the only one going through this. Dont be used or walked all over.

Kangotti214 · Answer

Leave him. My ex (baby daddy) was doing and being the same exact way and I found out he had been cheating on me while I'm pregnant and talking to numerous other females throughout our entire pregnancy. And if I confronted him about my gut feeling he would get mad and start turning things on me as if I'm the one cheating or playing games and he would never ever let his phone leave his site! Go with your gut feeling as hard as it is trust me I know. I'm 34weeks pregnant and had to move back home give up my dog and everything all bc he wanted to cheat, lie, be controlling, vindictive, possessive, and he started to hit me bc he would get so mad when I tried talking to him about how I was feeling like something was going on. It's hard to just walk away trust me I know, I get it, but once a cheater always a cheater. He will not change! And you don't want your child growing up knowing that it's OK for a man to treat a woman like that do u? What kind of example and role model is he being to the child already...just bc you're pregnant with his child does not mean you need to stay with him. Never stay with someone for the child's sake, it will actually make it worse and harder on the child. Wish you the best of luck. Please feel free to message me any time as I know exactly how ur feeling and what ur going thru

sweetbee3 · Answer

You want his phone, ??? With out looking crazy?? Here's what you do. Even though it kills you. ... 

First,  once he gets of work, act normal!!  But no accusing.  Make him a nice dinner or order out  (orange chicken will put him to sleep BTW) eat together,  cuddle,  watch tv then give him "some" after ges done, relax, breath, cuddle acting like everyting is normal. He will fall out ( long day at work+ good food+ good sex+ no fighting= happy sleepy man) 

Once hes knocked out. Wait for 15-20 min. Tgen grab his phone. Go to the bathroom with your phone as well in xase you find some numbers) . Youll be shaking, breathing heavy. Just be as calm & as fast as possible. 

But rememver yes it is best you kno. But if you go digging you just may find whay your looking for. Taking him back is your choice, but are you going to keep putting your self through this? 

What ever is in the dark will come to light. 

I wish you the best of luck hun

maw4389 · Answer

Sounds like he's hiding something.

Danalexa · Answer

Im 14 years married now and since the first day i was leading with that...i always closed my eyes and did like nothing happened so till today he never stopped cheating on me even he is such a good dad every 2 or 3 months i got this pain cuz i find out a new women in his life but he keeps telling me ohhh you're my wife and this is just in your mind..imagine how bad s this for me but i fell like i got stock with him cuz im gettimg my 2nd baby....so my advice is Runnn dont let this idiot destroy your life Run so far and let him now you have dignity...dont do same like me cuz believe me if he did once he'll never stop.

amdonoso · Answer

At this point, people are always going to make their own choices and decisions. I'd suggest praying about the situation and asking God for clarity and peace of mind. Also for him to take control of the situation and eliminate any toxic environment that may be putting you or baby in any harm.. Then trust that he will handle the situation. You're in my thoughts and prayers. I love you sister

tyty1993 · Answer

Leave before you pop that kid out. My ex, the father of my firstborn cheated on me, i went back home and lived with my mom for a bit, until i was stable, actually starting seeing someone during the end of the pregnancy and now we, 4 1/2 years later are together with 1 kid together and another on the way. Plus he took in my firstborn like she was his. Dad is still in her life, but so glad i got out when i did. Its alot easier to leave while its technically just you. Alot alot harder after you have the baby. I just told my man about your situation. Hes cheating so hard. And not even caring if you know or not. Hes a sleezebag, scumbag

Kanenes_FirstTime · Answer

I Haven't Caught My Bf Cheating , But Sometimes I Feel Like He Is . The Best Way To Get This Off Your Chest Is To Talk To Him , If He Try To Make You Feel Guilty Dont Put Yourself Down , Then Ask Him To Prove It Ask Him If You Can See His Phone And Have 10 Minutes To Go Thru It . If You Find Nothing , Then Just Tell Him You Can't Help But Feel That Way Cause Your Trust Is Not Fully There With Home Yet Hopefully He Understands .

crystalanderson09 · Answer

My two cents: he gave you an STD so he is obviously unconcerned on the welfare of you and baby. And if he still acting sketchy I would suspect continued cheating as well. If he has nothing to hide he should have no issue with you using his phone. So ultimately you need a safe and trusting environment for baby. If he is willing to end it because you want to peek on his Facebook then he has already checked out on your relationship. Take my opinion with a grain of salt. Best wishes.

beckielove86 · Answer

There's definitely something fishy about what he's been doing .and u have every right to doubt him since he's cheated already...you gotta stay strong and love ur self and show him your worth alot more...you won't be the first of the last single mother...that's just the honest truth..God will give u the strength to over come any obstacle

LilAngel92 · Answer

Trust your gut. You know your man better than anyone else. If it doesn't feel right, maybe there is something going on.

kenny95 · Answer

Hell no there's no reason for him to be out that late. I'd tell him he's acting sketchy and if he wants this to work you need to see his phone right then and there since he betrayed you so badly already. But I honestly think he's cheating. If when you go through his phone and there's nothing there which I highly doubt then appokigizr and make it up to him for being paranoid. You're carrying his child there's nothing wrong with trying to make sure the man you're about to start a family with is doing right by you.

Manning2017 · Answer

You don't have time to worry yourself about his shenanigans. Focus on you.. that's the greatest gift you can give yourself, your child, and him. There is nothing wrong with co parenting, but there is a lot wrong with living in misery. Your child deserves all that concern, not a grown individual who is choosing to purposely do wrong. Best of luck to you and your child

2017baby · Answer

Leave his ***.. Only answer to it.. Once a cheater always a cheater

sweetbee3 · Answer

How are things?  Hope all is well

tyty1993 · Answer

And why should you apologize for his sketchy and untrustworthy actions? Your not doing anything wrong. But once u feel like this, the way you do now. It will never go away, it will never get better. If a man cant be there for you, during a time that u need the most support, acting a fool while your carrying his and your child then, i personally think, he wont be there longterm, and you wont want him there anyway, when he is there ull be full of resentment towards him and hatred. It ends ugly. Leave for you and your baby.

bricegurl · Answer

I just don't know what else to do... I don't wana just come right out and ask for his phone.. Last time he said "if there is nothing in it then we will just part ways because ur being childish and think I'm cheating"and I know there is a chance I could be wrong. But there is a chance that for the umpteenth time I'm right... And if I'm wrong I would apologize but if i brinG this up to him and just ask I won't have the opportunity to apologize..and i don't wana break up just cause I'm wrong... I love him but I don't wana look stupid anymore.. I want to either be single or have someone who is going to be loyal to me.

aknecht · Answer

If he wasn't doing anything wrong, why wouldn't he tell you he was getting a ride from a co-worker? I'd definitely suspect something secretive is going on.

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