My bf and I live together, we both get Medicaid, food stamps, and cash assistance on the same case. When we had our 1st child, I was told he would be responsible to pay child support but there was never any mention of it after the baby was born. We are now having our 3rd child and I was sent paperwork to fill out about whether or not I wanted him to pay child support. I think if You're not married they just assume the father should be held responsible for child support, but you can tell them that he is in the child's life and is supporting at least half of the child's needs.
Thank you ladies :) @specialmom thank you so much you've been a lot of help!
No girl. As long as you don't file for it. It's not there business
Before you receive any aid or public assistance, they require the male to pay child support if his income isn't captured in your paper work. That may very state to state but it's a common practice. That way, a couple can't remain unmarried but living together in a household not including one person's income on forms. That's the fraud part.
In my state, child support is mandatory and there is a minimum amount someone will owe even if they don't work. And prior to any person asking for assistance, that child support is subtracted off the top.
To the poster, you sound very sweet and sincere and I hope EVERYTHING works out well for you hon!
When we had our daughter they never went after her dad. We live together and as soon as she was born he was added to the medicaid as well.
In my state, if you file for state assistance they will have you file for child support. If you don't need or want state assistance then they have no control over it unless it is filed for. This is where I live though.
My daughter's dad and I weren't married but were living together. I was on medicaid, and when we went to court 6 years later, I told them I didn't want his child support but they did make him pay my medical bills for delivery. This was 10 years ago and I have no idea why they waited so long, but he never did pay cs.
Only if you get cash assistance they do in my state. Like being on TANF. Food stamps no they do and Medicaid.. no they don't.
Well I had a totally different experience my bf had to pay child support due to me receiving medicaid the judge clearly stated it at our court date...I wasn't receiving cash benifts or anything
Im not receiving any money assistance but I do have insurance, WIC , and just recently food stamps.. im going to make an appointment and ask questions and give them whatever answers they need. Thanks for the help (:
They ask because the state would go after child support before giving you free money you ask for. Besides, you would have to pursue action against your SO before he could get in trouble for anything. The government doesn't care what you do even if they say he has to pay unless you're taking action against him.
They make you sign a paper for ORS unless you claim him on your case and show he is living with you then he will receive benefits too. If you weren't living with him they would go after him through ORS and make you do a dna test
Thats what my case worker told me
If u get state assistance like food stamps when the baby is born u have to put the baby and the dad on ur case. U also will qualify for tanif which helps pay for diapers or baby food ect
Thanks ladies and yes im going to call and make an appointment with my caseworker thank you!
i agree with bouncingboy. This is a question you'll want answered straight from the source - whatever assistance you're getting.
I am not sure, I had my daughter in 2011 and was on medicaid and he did not. My friend had her baby about 1 1/2 years ago and they did that to them. They were together and had been for the longest time and made him do that. Which makes no sense to me at all. I think they may have changed the rules/regulations..
We do not live together though so it may be a different situation. I would call your case worker she will give you better info than the internet:)
In my state they told me that I have to let them know he is helping with bills or baby stuff or what have you. If you're in a relationship and are not married they just want to know that he is not a dead beat dad. Like my bf pays part of my car and insurance and out phones and they didn't ask for proof. If they do I'm just going to put the money in my account before paying the bill and then it's documented. Hope that helps
Even with assistance he doesn't have to pay child support if your together
Nope they can't force you to have them pay.
They will leave you alone if you tell them you don't want your partner to pay.
Thank you ladies you have been a lot of help! sometimes idk what I would do without you guys :) Thanks again I will go to family services and get everything straightened out :)
I don't think they can force them to pay child support. I will make sure with my fiance he has a 3 yr. Old and the mom was living with him so I don't think they can. Only if you file for child support.