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I really don't mean to bring negativity to the lives of you mom's to be. But I just need some advice. I am expecting my second child in March, however I am not mentally stable enough. I suffer from bipolar disorder,  and I just don't believe I should bring another child into this world. I feel like my four year old is somewhat already affected by this...
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I am sorry that you feel that way and I too suffer from bipolar disorder, anxiety, nerves and anger manegement.. and I have 3 daughters and I'm currently pregnant but I dont feel like my children suffer from my disorders and I've learned to controll my self because my babies have no fault for what I have .. also my husband is a great support because he already knows me and helps me .. so if you decide not to bring this baby into this world .. that is all up to you and it does not mean that this baby will go thru what you have .. remenber that he not only has you're geans but dads too
... sending prayers you're way ... may god bless you and you're family
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Thank you so much for your kind words❤
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I too suffer from mental illness I have anxiety really bad like its crazy and I lost my 4 year old daughter last year on Christmas 12/25/16 and I just fount out I was pregnant I'm 9 weeks :\ I'm excited but at the same time I kinda freaked out because I don't want anyone to think I am trying to replace her because I will NEVER try or will not replace her at all I honestly believe that this baby will help me cope with the fact of losing my daughter or maybe it's god way of helping my family heal I'm not sure but I honestly didn't think I could bring this baby into the world but the way I see it is this baby didn't do anything wrong so why should I take the baby's life because I don't feel right not saying anything bad about you I was just speaking for myself of how I thought of it when I fount out I was pregnant I do believe god wouldn't give us anything we couldn't handle and I believe we got this girl. And if you still don't won't to have the baby you could always put the baby of for adoption if that's an option to you ? And I do not judge so please don't take what I said the wrong way I believe everyone is different in they're own little way and what they decide is their business but I do believe god will guide you through this :) he has helped me and I'll be praying for you.. I hope everything works out for you girl :)
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I hit myself ecpecially at the beginning of my pregnancies. I get so emotional. I feel like i do eveything wrong. I feel like everyone hates me.  I dont like my son to see me like that and i worry he will see me, and do what i do. I dont want pills. I dont want doctors. But i do know one thing i love my son. I don't believe i should be bringing another child into my life.. but the truth is he makes me happy and makes me smile everyday. And i wouldn't change it for the world.  Another child will only bring me more joy even tho i am super screwed up emotionally. I can't leave them now.  And i cant imagine my world with out them. I am just into my 2nd trimester and i am super nervous. I never planned on 1 kid now i will have 2. My partner does not calm me when i freak,  he makes me worse. Idk how i will cope with him  when i have 2 children. I need to get out... i hope you find your path. Much love too you♡
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I as well suffer from bipolar. I am currently due with my second child in April. I sometimes feel as if my mental health takes over and affects my daughter as well. I have been working with different coping skills and learning the warning signs of how I feel right before I go into a cycle. I can honestly say therapy has helped a lot with this. The day I found out I was pregnant I quit taking all my meds (my choice, did not talk to my psychiatrist about it) and I have been doing awesome! I am pro-life, but I don't preach it. I will stand behind you in any decision that is made as long as you have explored all your options and are truly 100% positive on whatever that choice may be. I personally would look into adoption before terminating if I was not able to keep the baby due to any circumstances. There are a lot of people who can not conceive and desperately want a child. (I tried for 3 years before I got pregnant the first time and then I miscarried at 9wks). I really wish you the best of luck in whatever your decision may be, but please look into all options and whey the pros and cons before making a final decision. I would be more then happy to listen if you need to talk! Prayers to you and your family with everything you have going on and this new baby.
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I as well suffer from bipolar. I am currently due with my second child in April. I sometimes feel as if my mental health takes over and affects my daughter as well. I have been working with different coping skills and learning the warning signs of how I feel right before I go into a cycle. I can honestly say therapy has helped a lot with this. The day I found out I was pregnant I quit taking all my meds (my choice, did not talk to my psychiatrist about it) and I have been doing awesome! I am pro-life, but I don't preach it. I will stand behind you in any decision that is made as long as you have explored all your options and are truly 100% positive on whatever that choice may be. I personally would look into adoption before terminating if I was not able to keep the baby due to any circumstances. There are a lot of people who can not conceive and desperately want a child. (I tried for 3 years before I got pregnant the first time and then I miscarried at 9wks). I really wish you the best of luck in whatever your decision may be, but please look into all options and whey the pros and cons before making a final decision. I would be more then happy to listen if you need to talk! Prayers to you and your family with everything you have going on and this new baby.
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I've gone through lots of issues with my mental health for about ten years now.. Some reasons due to the bad choices I've made, traumatic events in my life, addiction, uncontrolled situations, a disfunctional family, fear of the unknowing, and abandonment. Since I was 15 I have been taking psych and depression meds to help cope and deal with it all. It's been a rollercoaster.
When I found out I was pregnant, about a week ago, my doctor told me to stop taking all my meds. That they were harmful to the baby. Honestly, I didn't know how to even process doing that though. Usually I cant even go a day and a half without it because I completely break down and lose it. How the hell was I gonna be normal without them? So much fear and negative thoughts ran through my head that I felt hopeless.
It's been 5 days now, completely off them,  and I can't even explain what I'm feeling. It's so uncomfortable though.
Whether or not I feel good though, I know I'm doing the right thing for myself and the baby. It's very hard but I can feel some sort of force or energy pushing me to not give up. Something's telling me that I am stronger then I believe I am and can I can conquer these defects in my life. It's all about accepting ur fears and flaws and coming to peace with them. Actually being okay with the person you are and what put you where you are today. Just allowing all the confusing behaviors you have dealt with to just be as they are. They are all part of you and who u are as a person. Our mental health problems have created the amazing women we are today. We can overcome this all just one day at a time and with patience. It will be okay. Just start to learn how to love yourself for who you really are. If you want it, you can have it.

*God grant me the serenity to except the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.

I believe in you girl. You got this. Just believe in yourself.
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Do what you think best just dont kill the baby if you think you cant raise another let someone else raise the baby take your time out and find a family you love and trust. I suffer from anxiety and multi personalitys also depression since i was little and my depression is so bad when i had my first child they had social workers come in my room at least 4 times a day asking if i was ready to give my son away they even has security sit in my room half the day to make sure i wouldnt hurt my self or my baby because he was born with extra pinkies and no hair so they automatically thought because he wasnt perfect to them i would kill him and now my little boy is turing 3 hes is a happy child and makes me really happy and now we are both happy for the new baby on the way
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