Mother in law

[braley0215]

Does anyone have MIL problems? Over bearing giving advice that makes you feel like you don't know what you are doing? She even plans on being in the delivery room, and I don't want her there. She's making this whole process feel like this child is hers not mine and my husbands.

[chels2115]

I got to the point I dont really get bother by my ml I appreciate the things she does and the advice and I go on with my day im still going to do what I want for my child  even when shes out their buying everything for my baby and doesnt ask she buys cribs and carseats and its all neutral stuff and I find outsex of baby friday I do t want neutral things but I dont have to use what she buys

[braley0215]

Thank you. I know I need to lay down the law. Trust me I've been trying. I'm tired of sounding so mean sometimes.
And that's exactly how I will tell people we want our birth "Noone was in the bed room with us making the baby" hahaha

[jrod25m]

My MIL was being exactly like that until one day she came over and caught me off guard telling me all kinds of stuff trying to "test" me and i told her that no one wae gonna be in the delivery room just me and my husband and the doctor! Just like no one was in the bedroom with us trying to make the baby no one has to be there watch me have it and she said she respects my decision. Then a couple of weeks later she started saying she wanted to stay over for the 40 days of recovery and i told her thank you but that wasn't gonna be nessecery because i want to do learn and experience this with my husband and if one day i do need her help for her not to worry I'd let her know and she said no problem she respects my decision for me not worry that she understands and is happy for us! Im glad though we cleared all this up before the big day and it was talked about in a manner where there was no arguments or yelling! :)

[wayfunmommy]

Shut it down and lay down the law now.

[Yolandaaa]

Just remember that it's your labor and delivery and in the end it's your say who gets to stay, the nurses will do the dirty work for you and kick anyone you say out. But seriously MIL problems are the worst! And mine does the same thing I think she wants to snatch my baby away!! I've just gotten to the point where she's the last person I want to even look at my child! -_-

[TheJuniors]

You simply have to sit her down and tell her "I am not comfortable having you in the delivery room with me." Trust me I ended up telling a lot of people it was only going to be my husband and I and they didn't like it. The nurse on the other had told me it was amazing and I agreed. I wouldn't change it. Even though they were upset they got over it as soon as my son arrived.

[nae_nae25]

let her know that your baby not hers you don't have to be mean bout it just sit down and have a talk wit her and she doesn't understand then that's her problem cause she had her child already this is your child even tho her child made the baby it's still give her no right to tell you what to do wit your baby

[Novemberbabiess]

My mil is a recovering drug addict. She tells me how to do a lot of things with my daughter and I ignore every thing she says. She didnt raise her own Children. My husband raised his brothers and sisters till he joined the military.

[makeartnotwarr69]

Ugh. There is probably nothing more irritating than MI problems. Saturday evening and still a continuing problem up until today, the first real argument I've ever had with my husband's mother and younger sister. They simply cannot accept that their son is growing up. I have no real good advice except to just be sweet even if it is fake to a degree.  Don't let her make decisions though, hold your ground. My mother in law even tried to argue with me about me wanting to use pampers over Huggies and I simply had to just laugh it off like I didn't take it serious and not even answer her. They will treat you a whole new way from here on out. It's so crappy but it's true. Ugh.