My first vent post

[DaZzzee]

So today I looked through my boyfriends phone and found texts. He was telling this girl he likes her a lot and he called her boo. I'm so hurt right now I don't know what to believe. I confronted him about it he says his phone has been messing up and don't know who the person is or how that message got there but I think that's a lie. He swears on our baby that he is telling the truth but I don't know what to believe. A phone can't receive other people's text messages by mistake, can't it? I keep telling him im not stupid and phones don't have mistakes like that. It just hurts so damn much to have read that and he also goes and slaps me in my face TWICE cuz I keep saying he is lying to me and didn't want to give him the phone cuz I know he will delete it which he did. I'm really at a loss right now. I usually don't vent on here but I'm too embarrassed to tell my friends cuz they all think we have such a perfect relationship.

[arlandonbloom]

Definitely get out of the relationship for the sake of you and your baby. No one should ever cheat on their sig. other, especially the woman that is carrying his baby. I am so sorry that you are going through this hun. You and your baby definitely deserve more than that and it is obvious he is doing something wrong if he is doing something as bad as slapping you just because you had his phone? Definitely get out.

[wishes2891]

Okay slapping you is wrong. I would be gone immediately just from that alone. I'm definitely not defending him but phones can mess up text messages. I learned that in a super humiliating way and it's why I have a new phone now. It was actually chopping up and reassembling messages I was sending!  One was so humiliating i ended up bawling all day bc of it. I don't remember the exact thing it sent but it cut up three older messages (one was a week old!) And reassembled it and made it sound like I was masturbating and having an orgasm. OMG! I still don't know how it did it.

[CheyanneP]

so..............DID YOU LEAVE?!

[GordonBaby]

Be done mama...
Totally unacceptable ...I got hit and made him leave. I don't care how difficult it will be to do it alone, I refuse to deal with drama and definitely not abuse. I'm here if you need to talk or vent some more

You will be fine, just eliminate that stress ASAP.  Not good for you and most.of all baby!

[CalleighThalch]

I really suggest you leave. It will hurt cause he is the father of your child but to do that and lay hands on you knowing your pregnant is not right. I know how it feels. I was in an abusive relationship with my daughters father, we fought everyday and he would always hit me. I never did anything about it for two year. When I had my daughter things got worse. I found out he was cheating on me throughtout my whe pregnancy even after. He got more abusive. When I started defending myself he turned to my daughter and abused her. At that point I knew I had to leave. I took my daughter and moved. Now my daughter is 2yrs old happy and healthy. I'm getting married next month to a wonderful guy that love me and my daughter as if she was his own. And I'm having another baby in May. So be strong and don't worry about him, think of whats best for you and your child. ((Hugs))

[stephaniep161]

I know how u feel I found out that my nd was texting another girl and I told him I done with him , I told him he didn't want to be with me and he doesn't have to worry about us .. I stopped talking to him , he kept saying she's just a friend and he knows her brother I was like I don't care on going through alot with this baby im more worried about her being ok  ,I went through the same thing with our first baby it lasted two years he did the same thing when I would take the stuff away he would get mad and hurt me I told him on not going through that again he can have her I rather be alone then upset all the time im  sorry ur going through this !

[DPU_Psych]

Get out now, for you and your baby. Stay with family or somewhere safe, and leave. Your baby sees & learns, hears & learns and then thats how he will likely end up behaving. Take care of yourself & God bless.

[hayang]

cannot believe he slapped you. did you know it's a felony to assault a pregnant lady? a year in jail. its a serious thing. just saying.

[DaZzzee]

Thanks so much for the support... I knew I wasn't going crazy.. I knew this time, it's NOT the hormones... it's HIM... it's so hard to leave cuz everyone on his side of the family and mine are expecting us to get married soon ='(

[DaZzzee]

I told him that.. I told him why you have to be so defensive about it... and he then brought up issues that don't even relate to the argument on him and the text messages. And yes ma'am I just hit 21weeks today.. my poor baby boy has been kicking me all day.. he could probably feel that I'm upset... I kept telling him I'm not stupid but he sounded like he was so sure that its not him who was texting that girl.

[pibarra88]

#1... he shouldnt be putting his hands on u.... #2.. he is totally lying yo you!!#3... are u still with him?? Cuz I wouldnt be!! I kno its hard but would u rather stay and be hurting cuz of lying and text messages always thinking about who hes talking to? Or would u rather be sad for like 2 months and then be happy that u left his ***!?... just saying good luck sweetie!

[rosey3216]

He is definitely lying, especially for him to slap you, obviously he is very defensive about it. Even if he wasn't texting another girl (which he was, there's no way cell phones can cross like that I mean come on, that is a really bad excuse), he put his hands on you which is unacceptable. Are you currently pregnant? If so that is even worse. Sorry hun. I would leave. :(

[DaZzzee]

He slapped me in the face twice cuz I wouldn't give up his phone cuz I know he would delete the messages which he did and also cuz I kept telling him that he is lying and all I want is the truth. But he got mad and said that's the truth, he don't know. that's all he kept saying, he don't know. smh... I'm so stressed out right now..

[ChloeAiden]

His lying and why would he slap you? What bull sht. Hmm sorry your going threw this. Men can suck sometimes :(