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My man does not understand!!!

I am 24 weeks 4 days with baby number 4 an he is being extremely selfish I believe. I am very I high not supposed to travel a lot or anything. He lives about an hour away he's trying to same enough money to move here. I am 26 an live with my dad for financial reasons. An I drive to see him ever 2 weeks an stay for the weekend. But he doesn't have a car so lately I've felt I've been going every weekend. Just to drive him around an sit in my hot car with no ac an my 3 other kids. An I can't get him to understand that I just want an need to sit at home an relax. So one min he is ok with me just staying at home but then come Sunday his day off he wants me to come. Fyi I'm not a last minute person I like to plan an pack the day before. An says thing to make me feel guilty till I go. An it's just to much on me I'm already have quite a few Braxton hicks contractions. I'm not dilated but am definitely at risk for extreme preterm delivery. I want to tell him no but I hate him being mad at me. I feel like I need to put the needs of my baby 1st an he needs to stay in as long as he can. I don't understand why he can't take a taxi to go do things. He pays for my gas an feeds us while we're there an gives me money to buy baby things an put into a savings account. It would be cheaper to take a taxi... I'm just wondering am I being selfish or is he just not understanding the issue at hand an how important it is I rest? I am on bed rest as much as I can since I have 3 beautiful kids who r 10 5 an 18 months.
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Thank u ladies it makes me feel better knowing that I am making the right decision for my kids an unborn baby.
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He wouldn't be traveling pregnant & with 4 kids he needs to understand if not then he won't be mad at you for long but for ur safety u should do what u feel is better
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Don't go then if he's mad at you oh well you have four kids. Put your children first by keeping them out of a hot car as much as possible unless it's absolutely necessary.
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Loan him your car, if that is all he wants is you to come drive him around.  You take a cab.
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You need to put yourself, your kids and your unborn baby first.
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Did your doctor put you on bed rest? If so then tell him the doctor said you can't drive farther than 20 min.
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Yes my dr put me on bed rest at 18 weeks

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