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Need advice!!!!!!

I'm 33week pregnant my baby daddy hasn't seen me since I told him I was pregnant...I just find out he might be married with two month old baby I'm just trying figure out what I should do cause I wanted him around your son he made his choose and he choose her over me and your son
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Take him to court for support and visitation. Doesn't matter if he has another family he still needs to do something for your child together too.
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OK I'm gonna do that I'm over it cause he been lying to me the hold time
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Id push for a DNA test and child support but not visitation. It sounds like he doesnt want to be part of your guys life and I wouldnt want him to retaliate and take it out on your child. Your babies father can also ask to have his parental rights terminated and wash his hands clean of the child meaning no contact and no child support. Both my sister and a friend have kids with dead beat dads. My sisters son begs and cries every friday afternoon not to have to go to his fathers house because his father chose to retaliate and is terrible to my nephew, but in order for my sister to get child support my nephews father demands to see my nephew every weekend. My friends daughters father refuses to work because child support gets automatically taken out of his weekly paychecks. So you guys may be in for a long road so be prepared. Im sorry you guys are having to go through this!
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Was he married before? I would just send him updates and file for child supports. If he was married before since she was pregnant before you the chances of him leaving his wife is slim. I'm sorry you have to go through that :(
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My husbsnd and I have 2 kids. Our son was 5 when we got a divorce (that he wanted). I wanted more than anything for him to be a part of our children's life. My son knew him as dad for 5 years. After he sent up back to our home state he stayed in another state. He moved closer to us but then moved back to AK really recently. In the past 2 and 1/2 years he has seen his kids 3 times. His parents won't let my 3 year old stay the night when he comes to visit so since the age of 1 she has only seen a total of maybe 10 hours if that. My point is, you may want him to be involved but he has to WANTS to be involved. Just make sure when the baby is born that you take the necessary precautions and get custody of your baby. If you want child support you might need a paternity test. My bf recently went for custody of his daughter, age 6, when her mom moved her out of state without telling him and refused to give him an address. We got a lawyer when his daughter was visiting with us and since there was never a custody order in place my bf had every right to keep his daughter with him until the custody battle was over. So make sure you take precautions and get it all documented through the courts incase he ever just one day decides he want to fight you. A lot of guys will fight for custody just to avoid paying child support.
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