need some advice..

[beckyyy1115]

So, my boyfriend really wants to name our son after him and he knew this whole time I didn't want to. But one day he made me feel really guilty for not wanting to so I said we could.. But today it set in to me that this is MY son and if I don't want to name him something I shouldn't have to. It should be a neutral decision not just his. So I told him how I felt and he started flipping out on me and now he says he doesn't know if he wants to be with me... I don't think I deserve this when all I wanna do is name my son.. What should I do? Am I overreacting or is he?

[teenmom1998]

I think he's over reacting but I guess if it's his first baby or son that's why.. He sounds like he's spoiled you let him get his way and that's how it is with me and I've been putting my foot down lately and he acts out like an over grown baby!.. All yur doing is trying to talk to him about different names and not his name I understand if yuh don't like the name really and he should to. And if he wants to break up over that petty argument and yuh not wanting the same name he needs to grow up because theirs gonna be more disagreements on tuffer subjects. Stick your ground just don't be mean about it so he can't say your being the mean one.

[Jessicabigley]

When I first found out I was pregnant with my first son my MIL wanted me to name my son after his father just like he was. I told him I want my son to be an individual and not #3 in the family name. I did give him his fathers middle name but its your choice. Just sit down and talk it out with your hubby and explain your reasoning.

[beckyyy1115]

Thanks girl, I wasn't mean to him about it. And either way my sons getting his middle and last name so he's still gonna have his dads name just not his first.. I hate how he flips out over this stuff. He's being nice now its just not fair.

[kklove2630]

My husband the same if it a girl I've let him name her after his mum as this is my 5th baby and his 1st. But as my step sister has took the boys name we was going to.have I've picked a name I've always like and he's moaning saying if it's a boy he wants him name after him. I'm not going to allow that I said yeah he can have it as a middle name that's it as I don't like the girls name but let him have his way with that one

[beckyyy1115]

He's more than likely going to be my only child so his name is really important to me. I'm not willing to give him his own way on everything like I usually do

[kklove2630]

Yeah you have to have your input on your child name and if your only having one then it's very important. I see it as if he ever leave the child will always have his name and I don't want that.

[beckyyy1115]

Yeah exactly.. That's how I feel. Me and him have a kinda rocky relationship and anything could happen

[haydenava85]

I was in a relationship with a man who would threaten to break up with me all the time over the stupidest issues. It turned out to be a really crappy relationship and he left me and our two kids shortly after our daughter was born. I would seriously not put up with those kinds of threats. He needs to be told he is not always going to get his way, a family is a team effort and if he keeps threatening to bail when things get hard it only makes the relationship 10x harder. His name could easily be a middle name. My fiancé wants his father's name as a middle name for our son. I'm ok with that even though I don't like it. I told him for the 1st name I have a habit (as this is my 3rd) of not making any final decisions until I see their little faces.

[beckyyy1115]

If he keeps it up I'm definitely not sticking around but I'm hoping when he see's our sons face he'll turn around and stop being so selfish. We'll see I guess.