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advice ladies pleaseee
Once again.my boyfriend is watching porn. I understand guys will be guys. But I told him I feel like it disrespects me as a woman, and makes me feel like im not sexy. Even though I make him feel as pleasurable as a woman can. And tmi, he busts in like litteraly 1 minute. Which im not getting my needs ment ): im having his baby and I love him. But I hate feeling like im being second to other woman. It hurts and im tired of arguing. Its overrated. Even though im hurt should I let it go? Because it looks like its not gunna stop.
I seriously need advice ladies. Please dont leave me hanging. I need to know im not alone. Its driving me crazy!!! );
I seriously need advice ladies. Please dont leave me hanging. I need to know im not alone. Its driving me crazy!!! );
I'm not judging, I don't know him, but it sounds like this could be becoming a problem for him if he's actually going to go look at it after you've had a fight... Doesn't make him a bad guy, just someone who may need help but doesn't even realize it.. You need to stay strong and I've learned with my husband, I literally have had to threaten our relationship and leaving with our son for him to understand how serious I am about some of the things he's done.. Not porn, but definitely an addiction category that I needed to nip in the butt!
Watching porn is not a guy thing, women watch porn as well. Just like we have emotions, men have emotions and feelings as well. Who knows how he feels and why he watches it. But as a couple, partners.... Y'all need to have a major talk. Y'all need to come to an understanding and find a solution. It has to be the both of you, working together.
Keep that fire girl. Stand up for yourself.
Im unhappy, and this is my safe place with my boyfriend. Hes a good guy but when we argue about something stupid he's gone to the bathroom for a hour hour and a half and it makes me so mad! Every one has an opinion, but I dont know what to do. To me its a big deal, im unhappy and it hurts because I've tried talking to him but doesnt delete his history like he wants me to see it? I've talk to him multiple times, but I guess I have to put my emotions beside? /:
Porn can lead to an addiction and can seriously hurt a relationship.. I cannot stand when people think it's just "a guy thing"..No man should have to look at others to be satisfied whether he'll meet them or not.. But whatever you choose to do just make sure it's what makes you happy. Never settle for something you don't feel right about
You are absolutely right! Itshouldn't be a "mans thing" because now you put that in my head he would go crazy if he knew I was watching something for a sexual pleasure. Thanks to you, I realized if I feel disrespected in my relationship I probably am. There's no man or woman concept thats acceptable if one of us feels misunderstood. Thank u lady.
I'm annoyed. What would they do if they caught us watching porn.. Would wesay "it's a woman thing"? If it's not acceptable to you then it's not acceptable for them if you're going to continue a relationship.
It doesnt hurt to try. Just dont let it run your sex life. Theres got to be room for the two of you seperate from things like that
And about the strip club, cheating. Is totally different. Now i would break up with him as dramatic as that sounds. Porn is just another way to satisfy him I guess as bad as I want to admit.
Im just irratated because ALL THE TIME he wants bjs and I do it because I love him! Even though it doesn't satisfy me! And watch it together oh he would get so wierded out lol I wish it would bring us together I bet
Im just irratated because ALL THE TIME he wants bjs and I do it because I love him! Even though it doesn't satisfy me! And watch it together oh he would get so wierded out lol I wish it would bring us together I bet
I'm in the same boat my boyfriend watches it all the time. I've talked to him about it told him how I felt. At the same time it's completely normal doesn't mean he doesn't love you just needs something different. I've even went as far as watch it with my man. I don't particularly strike an interest to it cause I find it trashy but it was something different to "spice" up the relationship. As long as he isn't physically cheating in you there is no harm in what he is doing. Try coming up with solutions for the both of you to try that will perk both or your needs
Thank u for all your input ladies.
Obviously like I said men will be men. But why lie? Im VERY open with him, I always want to try new things, I try and be more sexy for him but I know he likes girls who disrespect themselves. Bottem line. They shake their ***** for attention which is a obvious turn on for a guy! If a woman can satisfy him with her body as a pleasure is appiling to the eye.. no doubt. I just feel the need to know, hes my best friend. My only friend. And I know some women will always be smarter or sexier or whatever but he said he loved me because I was different. Im not an attention who're as bad as that sounds, I was raised highly with respect litteraly scared to be sexy.. I was taught that was wrong.. I guess I can't let my insecurities get the best of me.
Obviously like I said men will be men. But why lie? Im VERY open with him, I always want to try new things, I try and be more sexy for him but I know he likes girls who disrespect themselves. Bottem line. They shake their ***** for attention which is a obvious turn on for a guy! If a woman can satisfy him with her body as a pleasure is appiling to the eye.. no doubt. I just feel the need to know, hes my best friend. My only friend. And I know some women will always be smarter or sexier or whatever but he said he loved me because I was different. Im not an attention who're as bad as that sounds, I was raised highly with respect litteraly scared to be sexy.. I was taught that was wrong.. I guess I can't let my insecurities get the best of me.
Maybe tmi and looks like im a line ranger here, but have you considered watching it with him? My husband and I sometimes watch it together and its fun. We satisfy each other and neither one of us watch it without the other. Its a change from the everyday sex and keeps things interesting. I understand how some women view is at degrading to women and would never consider this, but many many couples find its better to enjoy each others fantasies together. add some toys and spice it up a little. The chances are his watching porn is not to offend you and doesnt mean he is unhappy with you but I understand how it makes you feel that way. i dont want my husband watching it alone either. It makes me feel second best too thats why we do it together and it makes it fun for us.
Porn is just porn and men will be men. Its typically just fun for them. They are more sexual creatures than we are. As long as it doesnt spill into other areas of life. A sex addict is another story! Just because he watches porn doesnt mean hes a sex/porn addict. (Not saying that isnt a real problem) Almost all men watch porn and can keep it to a healthy level. I wouldnt be too worried about the porn. You could ask him to do other things for you befor intercourse so that your needs are met too, they dont always know what we need or what works for us, and most women need more time than a man does, so if you are more discriptive you'll probably have a better chance at satisfaction. Some men even like when a woman knows what she wants and askes for it.
The only thing I can say is try talking to him. Ask him why he watches porn, is there something that he wants you to do that he's embarrassed to ask, try not to get too upset because some guys have trouble opening up when it comes to sex. If that's the case, try experimenting or surprising him with sexy outfits or gestures. Sex shouldn't be a routine and I think that's why some guys watch porn because it's exciting. Ask him if he can give you oral (if you're comfortable with that) that way you can finish and still go for round two with penetration.
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I would rather him watch porn then go to a strip club or cheat! I would let it go. Chances are he will never ever meet the people he sees in them
About the porn. Its completely normal for guys to watch. I understand it might hurt u because u dont feel sexy. But understand its just a faze. Your harmones are going crazy. making you extra sensitive. You shouldnt stress yourself or your baby over that. As for him not satisfying your needs is absolutely wrong of him. And could also contribute to the reason why u dont feel as sexy as you might of before. I say you should talk to him bout him taking a little bit more time and effort to satisfy you.
I have the same problem with my boyfriend i don't be in the mood to have sex with him so every tie he goes to take a shower i know he watches porn cause i find it in his phone history and i cought him jacking off to porn twice it bothers me so much cause i to feel as if im being disrespected by him jacking off to another woman but i understand man will be man and they have needs so i try and let it go . Thats the best thing to do cause every guy does it .
People aren't well educated about porn. I grew up with a step father who's a porn addict. It makes men very abusive and they get actual withdrawals. If I found my husband watching porn I'd get up and go file for a divorce In a heart beat. Sounds drastic but it ruined my family. My step father started stealing money and it always starts off as porn but eventually just porn doesn't satisfy. It escalates. Women should do their research. It's highly addicted. He because so abusive. I'm not saying you have to do the same but please be and ware of it'd affects
Your right, as much as it kills me then best thing to do is to let it go.. less stress on me & baby. I just need to feel beautiful in my own skin, maybe get my hair done or something to make myself feel better (: thank you!
Sorry I meant he not she
I definitely think you should let it go. Express how you feel to him. My fiance does the same and she thinks I don't know about it. Of course you have to be sensitive when you tell him he's not pleasing you because men are fragile about that. And also we are a little hormonal but if you communicate and he loves you then everything will be ok
Thats the thing, its not normal. Hes a good guy.. just horny? I don't know as a woman it ***** because im having his baby..my whole life is changing my body emotions everything! Im not as confident as I was before. Just need a friend I guess ):
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