Baby shower :/ vent

[GSYoung]

So I want to have my baby shower in December and I was tryin to choose a date, I thought i would be able to have it mid dec. so that it wouldn't be too close to the holidays, I want my cousins to be there though that's y I chose December so that they could attend because they always come for Christmas I kept asking what day they wer arriving so I could start planning and it took them forever to figure it out but I finally got the date after my husband started hassling me because his family wanted to know already I. told him it would probably be mid-late December but he said that they have like 3 birthdays then Christmas and they can't miss work for my baby shower. Now I understand they want to attend and I would love for that to happen but it's not fair that they want me to have it at a different time when my cousins can't be here (they live out of the country) just because they have other stuff to do.. They didn't even help out with our wedding my family had to do everything they didn't help financially, with any decorations, or even bring a single wedding gift. All of the gifts we received were from my side of the family. I doubt they will bring gifts for the shower either which not to be rude is the whole point of the thing. I don't know what to do it's so frustrating and I'm having it boy/girl so that all my friends and family can attend and I told my husband and he was like "well do I have to go?" I told him yes because he is the father of our child and it's not fair tht he leaves me to do everything myself and all he said was "can I drink because I'm not going if I can't drink and it's stupid that I have to go because baby showers are for girls" he proceeded to tell me that the only person he knows that had a boy girl shower was his sister. like it's his own sister that had one. It's so stupid I een told him it's only for a few hours you don't need to drink at a baby shower. He's being so selfish about this I don't understand it.

Sorry so Long I just needed to vent

[Hmph16]

Maybe have 2? Your husband is being a goof and screw his family members do what you want

[kelliebeanz]

I have to have more than one because both my parents sides cant get along so my dads family and moms family will both want one because they cant be in the same room for a few hours

[specialmom]

Just plan your shower the way you want it and send them invites.  They can do something for you themselves on their own.  

Now, I will tell you that the whole shower thing is kind of funny to me because we get really wrapped up in it and basically we are saying "come watch me open up gifts."  it's not the greatest time for most people.  My suggestion is to make it like a party since you are doing it with men being invited too and have fun with it.  Skip the games if you have men!!  Trust me, I went to a male/female shower with my husband and they tried to do games and the men were NOT having it.  They aren't smelling a diaper to figure out what kind of food is on it!!  

Anyway, just make  it a nice party.  I know that I did not get much of the equipment or big things I registered for.  After my shower, my lovely and wonderful sister showed up at my house with like 5 big ticket items for me (we only have each other and no parents).  I went out and got everything else myself either new or at a used store.  

I just worn girls of this because I was at a shower recently of a niece who did not get any of her big things but a stroller and she was noticeably disappointed.  People often get smaller things or a bunch of people go in on things together.  

I  just kind of expected it to be like my wedding where I'd get EVERYTHING on my registry. LOL  

anyway, that is just a little FYI but I think you have your shower when and how you want it.  They come or don't.  The only issue is if your husband is going to be upset about it.  That's trickier to deal with.  Maybe he can ask someone in his family to throw you a mini shower with his family??

[GSYoung]

I told him I would get him some of his favorite foods (mini corndogs and tater tots) I told him the date an told him to make sure it's fine with his family and he just posted it on fb at first he told me to tell his family but I told him they give me anxiety lol it all seems so be going ok right now but we will have to see once his family actually finds out :/

[Faith_Sarai]

I'm having two because of that reason. My husband family will throw me one and then we will go to my hometown for my family to give me one. Stick to your plan. They can give you something small and only bring diapers and wipes if they want. Your husband can't call shots neither can they even they are helping with the shower. Cab he invite a couple guy friend so he won't be so bored like he think he will be. My husband is acting the same way but I'm having him cook some of the food so idk if I will make him come

[novembermunchkin94]

Stick to what you want. If they didn't even offer to throw you one or even help out, they have no right to try and take over. A baby shower is to help get things the baby needs, and if they most likely won't even bother with a gift they should just hush. It's your shower that you're having to do yourself, so just ignore them. As for your husband, he needs to be more supportive! You didn't get pregnant alone. He shouldn't have to drink to have a good time celebrating his child.

[GSYoung]

I need some advice, my family will be here for 8 days and I know his family will want to have it their way which isn't fair to me what should I do or tell them?