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venting...
I feel like i want to die. i dont want this baby and i dont want to live. My life turned upside down and i cant handle it. I dont have enough strength to move on.. i feel like if there werent the baby i wouldve killed myself long time ago. But i just cant do this anymore... i cry 24/7 and keep wondering what the heck happened to my fairytale life. i lost everything i had and i dont do how to cope with it. I wish i could turn back time :(
I'm so sorry about what's happening to you. Be strong for your baby. There's so many mothers around the world who are both mom and dad and they do a great job. It's pathetic how he just left you like that it gets me so angry. Stay with your friend till you know what decisions you want to do. God is always there for you and all of here sending you prayers. I was in love with my high school sweet heart and he was my fiancé and I found out the hard way of who he really is and he chose his own life over me and his own child. Some men or boys as I should say aren't ready and prepared to grow up and realize their lives have to change. Only focus on your baby and yourself, your baby needs you and you'll be a great mother. I'm 18 and I'm a single mother now too and i know how hard it is when you love someone so much and thought you were giving him everything but then he crushes you..you'll be a great mother/father figure to your baby♡ I'll still keep you in prayers, be strong beautiful I know you can go through this
Marijana.. Focus on the positive. Focus on all the ladies posting encouragement and uplifting words. Forget about the rest.
That's awful! Wish u the strength to cope with all of this . Your baby is a blessing and I'm sure u are strong enough to overcome this . He doesn't deserve u u are worth much more. You have a beautiful baby growing in ur stomach you need to be strong for him. Your life is precious and now it's even more precious cuz ur becoming a mother . May God help you!
If i said anything out of term i do apologize. I wish you well.
Please take time to read over the 99.9% of positive support you've received. Ignore the negative. My mum always said if you don't have something nice to say then don't say anything.
Now, I too have and am suffering from depression and you can and will have a brighter happier day. It shows how strong and wonderful a person you are to be able to say 'I am struggling'. I did it on my own with my first 2 sons and there were days when, like you, didn't attempt to end my life, but thought 'living is so painful and difficult, to fall asleep and not to waken would be a relief'. That's entirely normal to feel. NEVER feel guilty (AND NEVER ALLOW ANYONE TO MAKE YOU FEEL GUILTY). My sons saved my life as I had to keep going as I was the only one around for them. I now see to have haf their idiot sperm donor around would have damaged me beyond anything. I am strong, I still struggle, I have difficulties but remember that this moment won't last and things will and do improve. Concentrate on you and you will have the best relationship with your baby. I do and my 'babies' are now 14 and 17! This will make you strong and be a wonderful soul and such an amazing role model for your children. If you need me please message♡
Now, I too have and am suffering from depression and you can and will have a brighter happier day. It shows how strong and wonderful a person you are to be able to say 'I am struggling'. I did it on my own with my first 2 sons and there were days when, like you, didn't attempt to end my life, but thought 'living is so painful and difficult, to fall asleep and not to waken would be a relief'. That's entirely normal to feel. NEVER feel guilty (AND NEVER ALLOW ANYONE TO MAKE YOU FEEL GUILTY). My sons saved my life as I had to keep going as I was the only one around for them. I now see to have haf their idiot sperm donor around would have damaged me beyond anything. I am strong, I still struggle, I have difficulties but remember that this moment won't last and things will and do improve. Concentrate on you and you will have the best relationship with your baby. I do and my 'babies' are now 14 and 17! This will make you strong and be a wonderful soul and such an amazing role model for your children. If you need me please message♡
Exactly, it takes a few words to make someones day and a few words to take someones life. Especially if someone is already feeling so low do you really think she needs any more bull crap? Sometimes we just need people to give us some sympathy and tell us its going to be ok. And look ur baby is still the blessing it was when you were with your husband. That baby will give you more unconditional love than you could ever dream of. Honestly, having this baby is a good thing for you. He will replace the hurt with joy, distract you from your sad thoughts, make you grow stronger because you want a good life for him. Its hard now but this baby is your family. I really hope ur ok and u get better. Dont be sad about ur baby, ur baby loves you and will always be by ur side holding ur hand. This experience seems horrible and it is but im confident u will be so strong once u raise ur chin up and just do what u have to do to get through it. Take comfort that u arent alone...ur baby is with u.
@inlovewithmybaby first of all, my post starts with a sentence: i feel like i want to die, not: i am going to kill myself. i wrote i dont know how to cope with it, meaning i wanted advice how to cope with something like that not a comment how bad of a person i am. You have no idea what i'm going through and have no right to judge me why i dont want this baby. i am not going to explain my situatuon in details again, but I planned for this baby with someone i love because we wanted to start a family together. Now he left me alone with that baby and said he doesnt love me anymore. he said he wasnt sure what he wanted back then and he rushed into it. because he didnt know what he wanted now i'm left on my own, 19 and going to be a single mom, stuck in a country where i have no one. I have every right to feel whatever i want to feel like even if my situation wasnt as miserable as this. But if this was a post of someone suicidal with actual guts to do it, how would you feel if they took away their life because you made them feel even worse? You gotta be careful what you say in future.
Thanks everyone for your comments and support though. And all your prayers, it means a lot to me.
Thanks everyone for your comments and support though. And all your prayers, it means a lot to me.
God makes no mistakes. Your baby is not a mistake. Ur situation is so unfortunate and i pray for u, but if your husband left you the way he did you need to know u deserve better then that and that is not love, i hear that u want to die, but my question to you is what will you dying solve. Your husband will go on and your baby will be motherless. You have to see you are worth so much more your baby is so innocent. Maybe you should look into adoption for ur baby there is no harm in that. But DO NOT take your life for anything or anyone sweetie don't give them that power over you.
Pls check ur msgs I left u one.
She needs to know that she has a miracle on the way and needs to be strong too. I understand depression,but she needs some real advice she needs to get her head out of her *** & get some money together & go home. Or stay with her friend till she gets that money.is she homeless right now?I think they are married & they are going through a rough patch & he isn't happy but they can work things out for the sake of the family if he isn't abusing her. Becuz being without a father is pretty hard on a kid.I don't feel bad for her if she's going to wish she didn't even have her baby.& wants to die.I've been depressed during this pregnancy had nothing,gone through it all.& I've seen all my family go through **** you wouldn't wish on your worst enemy.my sister got her head smashed in at 7months pregnant by her baby daddy knocked out all of her teeth every single one,and worst of all the baby died.but guess what she's still alive and trying to push forward.& give it her all.I'm not gunna sit here and say oh I'm sorry hun sorry u want to kill urself and wish ur baby was dead too.hell no. You can fix this. wishing you didnt have your baby?that's not right dude. For **** sake I'm sorry but I don't feel bad for you right now. Hardly explained what's so wrong anyways.what is so terribly wrong that justifies you wanting to be dead along with a precious life. Honestly.
I had my daughter when I was 15 too now she's nine and I went trough domestic violence with my babydady my parents didn't talk to me or none of my FAM at the moment you feel alone and to hear that I wasn't the only one going trough all that drama gets me calm and happy I wish this app existed back in 05 lol but marijana19 don't worry gun everything will fall back into place guys are jerks and time is gonna pass by so fast that when you have tour baby in your arms your gonna forget about everything and hopefully your husband reconsider you to go back take if easy :) god bless you
Ya @inlovewithmybaby maybe you should at least attempt to look at her other posts and you would not be so quick to judge her... she is very ill with pnemonia, got kicked out of her husbands home because he says he doesnt love her anymore, has no family, and is in a country with no one there to support her but one friend. What she needs is support not other women bashing her for VENTING like her post says. Her husband isnt just hurting her feelings, he broke her heart and kicked her to the curb with no warning signs whats so ever to make her think this was going to happen. @marijana19 if you do have the offer to go to the USA i would take it if i was you. Once you get better enough to fly.
She has no family.... not everyone has a wonderful support system.
aww baby its just a phase you going through i can honestly say that I know exactly how you feel cuz I went through the same thing just differently.. my son father left me when I was just 4 months and I was so inlove with him until i seen the real him.. I felt the same way you did but had to think that at the end of the day he needs me and weather he be in his life or not this is my baby and he is depending on me .. I had to come to my senses and realize there is no ni##a oht there thats worth me killing myself or even wish i was dead .. its even worst for you because you further along trust me it will pass but it all depends on you hold your head up and look in the mirror and say to yourself his lost not your
@Inlovewithmybaby- what a perfectly horrible thing to say. You can not control emotions like that. She is not selfish at all and if you even had the faintest understanding of depression or any other mental health problem you would know that she's not choosing to feel that way. It is beyond difficult to go through what she is going through. Telling her to just push through is not going to help her and you're actually making it worse for her by brushing off hey obvious cry for help. She needs support and the help of a professional to process her emotions and to treat her depression.
First of all Just because its a rough patch in your relationship doesn't mean you should want to die or that you shouldn't want your baby. I'm sure things in your guys relationship will work out and everything will be fine. Or you can move out & live with family & just be happy.its not the end of the freaking world becuz ur husband is hurting your feelings right now.things will get better.& u have an angel in your tummy. You shouldn't be thinking so selfishly..not wishing you had your baby? Really do you really?so you would be happy if you had a misscairage? That's terrible..please talk to someone about all this.you need to know that things will be fine whether if you have to be a single mama for a little while or if you work things out with him.its not the end of the world. You have to be strong.but honestly.you should be really happy right now..some people can't have a baby.you get to have your little angel who will love you,snuggle you,look just like you & the person you love,You get to protect your little one,and get smiled at by there sweet smile.your babys going to be gorgeous to you.you need to be thinking about all the positives.& just relax & do something you like. I like spending time with my mom big sis & little sister when I get really depressed. I'm a single momma Juat got to push through life. & now I've never been happier. It will work out.pray about it & feel better.
I am sorry you are going thru this. That man doesnt deserve you or your baby. You are a good woman and you will be a great mama. This shall pass, concentrate on getting well so you are ready for when your baby comes. May God be with you and your baby. You are in my thoughts.
GET OUT!!!!! GET CUSTODY AND DONT YOU LET ANYBODY MAKE YOU FEEL WORTHLESS.
this man has threatened to take the child feom you. Left you on the street and wants to divorce you. He is selfish.
Do you have a passport??? JUST LEAVE whos cares if its in his name your name your still married go before baby is born. GET A LAWYER...
this man has threatened to take the child feom you. Left you on the street and wants to divorce you. He is selfish.
Do you have a passport??? JUST LEAVE whos cares if its in his name your name your still married go before baby is born. GET A LAWYER...
Things will get better. Just concentrate on getting well. Maybe you should talk to someone at the hospital. Good luck.
Be strong and pray sometimes life isn't how we dream it to be I don't know you but please try to hang in there take it day by day
I just want to say that I too am sorry you are having this happen and things seem so miserable and hopeless right now. I so hope they get better soon sweetie. Hugs!
Ummm so our husband was a jerk for doing that to u.. But u have to remember this child didn't ask to be born. Men r dumb well some of them. Never know what they have till its gone god is good stay positive
Love is the best religion. @jennymeaney ;)
And marijana ive been keeping up with ur story and am so sorry for your troubles. Please try to stay strong because when that baby comes you are sure to fall in love and want to live ur life for only them. Do I rememver u saying u were close to a family in america. If their offer syill stands I would take it. Inagine the support... u deserve some kindness.
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