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Do you have many people touching your growing tummy? Does it bother you when people do it?
I'm just starting to show and already have a few people touching without asking first and i just want to punch them in the face... (i don't, just really want to).
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I had a friend touch me...I know for a fact I made a face just reflex . I'm 15weeks & only gained 5lbs so all I thought was Biaotch your touching my fat! -_-
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Punch the first one who does it then all the others will know not to do it haha you can put it on the pregnancy hormones... (fwi just kidding of course^^)
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This annoys the living day lights out of me and I feel terrible when family do it but I just cannot stand people touching my stomach I'm nearly 34 weeks and I feel by know people should no I don't like it. I would never just touch someone's bump. Makes me feel so uncomfortable like it's my personal space please do not touch .. it's my baby shower tomorrow and I know I will have to over come my fear but I just can't deal with it !
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So happy i am not alone in this. Thank you all for sharing
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Yeah I feel totally violated when people touch my belly including my mother. I've been this way my entire pregnancy. I've had people who make me uncomfortable anyway ask and I tell them to wait until he starts moving and I will let them know so they can feel. Yeah I never let them know.
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I though i was the only one that didnt like to have their bellies rubbed, me personally hate it i feel uncomfortable even when my mom does it, the only person i feel comfortable with thouching is my bf, i dont why though i just hate it i dont like the way it feels...it makes me really uncomfortable especially when other people touch my belly
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I hate when anyone tries to touch my belly! Its the most annoying thing ever lol only person allowed to touch my belly is the Daddy. Everybody else can stay away from me lol and I let them know to back off too
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Most people don't try but my friend started inviting everyone to touch my belly one time.  I was so annoyed.
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I don't mind when people I know touch my belly. I feel like it's their way of connecting with him! However, I don't like when strangers touch my belly. Thankfully, this has only happened once or twice so far in my pregnancy (I'm 30+4).
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I absolutely cannot stand to be touched while pregnant! I hated it when I wasnt so it's worst now. I'm not the touchy feely kind of person. At one point it was literally making me nasuas when someone touched me. I have tried being nice about it, posting it on fb that I feel like a petting zoo/freak show, etc...I don't know what else to do. They have even made announcements about it at work that touching is a no no because of people touching the pregnant women and them seeing them.
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I never had a stranger touch me I would not be happy at all if they did, but I'm in California and people aren't as friendly around here haha. I don't mind family and close friends touching unless its excessive. I don't mind if you touch but I don't want you hanging on my belly all day either. My husband was bad about touching all the time and I showed him how to feel where the baby was once and took that as permission to push on my belly all the time. I understand we are married and I don't have issues with him being close or touching me but shees sometimes I'm not in the mood to be touched and I don't need you pushing on my belly and bladder all the time..
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It drives me nuts.. a woman I work w will always lean down and put her face right on my tummy and basically whisper in my belly button. I HATE it.
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I thought it would bother me a lot, but it turns out I don't really care. For me, it's always been just a quick pat from a stranger or casual acquaintance and they usually ask as they are reaching toward me.  Not enough time to actually say no, but I probably wouldn't anyway.  As for family, we've always been a very touchy feely family so I'm perfectly fine with them doing whatever they want. If I'm walking through a room, their hands will just kind of fly out and touch my belly. I'm good with it.

I did have one casual acquaintance touch my stomach and she told me it was because she knows what a pregnant stomach feels like and that it would be much less embarrassing to apologize for "accidentally" touching a stomach than it would be to ask "are you expecting"and have the answer be "no......"  I found that kind of funny.
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It used to bug me but I have decided to not let it big me by focusing on the fact that it's just one more person that's excited for my tiny baby's life and to take away only joy from that but I also always wear an undershirt so if so person I don't know is touching my belly and looks dirty I just take off my shirt
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The other day, a friend put her hand on my tummy but my uterus only arrives halfway between pubis and bellybutton. So where she had her hand was nowhere near the baby but on my intestines and she said "oh is that the baby moving" haha i was like "no hes nowhere near there, thats gas" i'm not sure she will ever touch me again hahaha
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I haven't had strangers touching me yet. I don't think i'm big enough yet. My family knows me enough not to even ask. Its more friends. Only one asked but only once she already had her hand on me. All the others just do it. I should try keeping my hands on my tummy to limit contact, thanks for that advice. Thanks to all, nice to know i'm not completly alone. My husband says i exagerate and that its not a big deal.
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Sometimes I dont even let my hubby rub my tummy because sometimes just a touch gives me a braxton hick (im 38 weeks) You could always tell people that if you dont want them to touch you and you dont want to be rude about it.
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I have mixed feelings. Family is fine i dont mind but random peoplw i dont no really annoys me. I just think how would they feel if i rubbed their belly randomly. Worst ive had is a taxi driver rubbing my bump. I was furious!
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I was sat in a restaurant and my older sister actually came from behind me and surrounded me with both arms, put her face so close i could feel her breathing on my neck and started to strangely caress my belly. I still want to punch her since then....
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I'm so weird I actually tell me to feel my baby move I think it grosses them out more then it does me lol but I do understand how you ladies feel it can be a bit annoying when they don't ask befor touching
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I'm so weird I actually tell me to feel my baby move I think it grosses them out more then it does me lol but I do understand how you ladies feel it can be a bit annoying when they don't ask befor touching
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Family and close friends can be my guest without asking. A stranger, whether asking or not, shouldn't be touching my belly!
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And it also very dangerous due to my believe  when u stand with someone like that always have ur hands across ur belly
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Yeah, I know that will bother me when I get to that point with strangers. People I know, I'm fine with... My mom rubbed my tummy when she found out haha, first grand baby :)

I don't understand people's lack of manners and personal space in general these days though, just a simple "may I?" You know
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